Post # 1
I am my sister’s Maid of Honor. the problem I am facing is the fact that I really don’t know her that well.
Here’s the deal: I come from a big family. I am one of the youngest, and she is one of the oldest of us. She is about 10 years older than me. She went to college in southern USA when I was barely in middle school and never really came back home. We don’t talk often. I remember spending a lot of time with her when she was here, and she doted on me often. We had a happy relationship but after she moved out, we don’t talk frequently. We – of course – are on friendly terms, I just feel like I don’t really know who she is. Neither of us are super active on social media either so I can’t do any stalking to find info! :p
She lives in southern USA on the east coast, while I am in New England, so planning things is already tricky.
So my problem is that she wants a bachelorette party and a bridal shower and everything, but I have no idea what to plan! I don’t know any of her interests or what she likes to do. I don’t even know her favorite color! I really want it to be special and fun for her, I just feel like I am planning a party for a stranger, almost! I don’t know where to begin. The bridal shower shouldn’t be too difficult, but I’m very stressed out about the bachelorette party.
I have only been to two weddings previously and never been to a bachelorette party. I have never been a partier so I’m not very experienced with party planning/attending.
This is my sister’s second time getting married and she’s in her 30s (so she is a bit more relaxed about the whole process). She is having a small wedding this time so I don’t think she will mind if the parties are not extravagent (I am a broke college student). She doesn’t really have me involved much in the rest of wedding planning since it is going to be fairly small. There are no other bridesmaids or groomsmen; just me and the best man.
But I just don’t know; should I ask her fiance for ideas? Should I ask my sister? I’m worried I will make her feel bad if I reveal that I have no clue what she would enjoy! It is pretty awkward 🙁
Any advice or ideas on what I should do? Any good tips for throwing a good bridal shower and good bachelorette party on a budget? & planning a party from so far away?
I don’t know the first thing about bachelorette parties except the stereotype of drinking and getting male strippers and everything….which of course, is not happening! What makes a bachelorette party fun vs lame? I need all the help I can get! 🙂
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Post # 2
I would just talk to your sister! There’s absolutely nothing wrong about talking to her and asking her what she has in mind for the bachelorette/shower…in fact I think that is standard. That is certainly how my BM’s handled it with me anyway. Since this is her second wedding and it’s a far smaller affair, I would think just a night out to dinner and drinks in your hometown would suffice? But maybe she’d prefer to do some sort of activity…just ask her. And don’t sweat it too much. I’m sure she will love whatever you plan. 🙂
Post # 3
I would just be honest and ask. You could always go along the lines of something like ‘I’ve never really planned these types of things before, what are some must haves/priorities you want to have?’
Post # 4
I also think you should just ask her what she wants to do. She knows that you haven’t spent a lot of time with her recently and it’s the easiest to make sure it’ll be something she enjoys 🙂
Post # 5
tiffanybruiser : this.
Also, what a get opportunity to get to know her better!!
Post # 6
My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she does know me really well, and she still asked me what I wanted to do for my bachelorette! Everyone has their opinions about what they would like to do, so I highly doubt she’d be offended or assume anything about the closeness of your relationship if you just ask her what she feels like doing. For my bridal shower, my mom and sister did a lot of the planning but would ask me lots of yes/no questions, for instance: Do you want to have games? Do you want a theme (and if so what type of theme)? That could help guide you a bit!
I agree with the idea of having something simple for a bachelorette on a budget. Keep it simple! Perhaps a girls’ day and/or evening – brunch or dinner, wine-tasting, paint nite, a sporting event, karaoke – all things I’ve seen included before! If you’re planning the parties for where she lives and you don’t live there, see if you can connect with some of her local friends or other local family members that can help you with ideas.
Post # 7
You’re over thinking this, just ask her what she wants for her party. Everyone has a different idea on how they’d like to celebrate. And you don’t have to mention that it’s because you barely know her. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend and knows me very well and has asked what I want to do. Plus, it’ll be way better to throw her the party she wants rather than just guess and get it wrong.
Post # 8
Just ask! My Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t really know my likes and dislikes, I’m was glad she asked me 🙂 shows you care