Maid of Honor for a Bride I Don’t Know Well

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
7814 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would just talk to your sister! There’s absolutely nothing wrong about talking to her and asking her what she has in mind for the bachelorette/shower…in fact I think that is standard. That is certainly how my BM’s handled it with me anyway. Since this is her second wedding and it’s a far smaller affair, I would think just a night out to dinner and drinks in your hometown would suffice? But maybe she’d prefer to do some sort of activity…just ask her. And don’t sweat it too much. I’m sure she will love whatever you plan. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 3
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would just be honest and ask. You could always go along the lines of something like ‘I’ve never really planned these types of things before, what are some must haves/priorities you want to have?’

Post # 4
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I also think you should just ask her what she wants to do. She knows that you haven’t spent a lot of time with her recently and it’s the easiest to make sure it’ll be something she enjoys ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

tiffanybruiser :  this.


Also, what a get opportunity to get to know her better!!

Post # 6
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she does know me really well, and she still asked me what I wanted to do for my bachelorette! Everyone has their opinions about what they would like to do, so I highly doubt she’d be offended or assume anything about the closeness of your relationship if you just ask her what she feels like doing. For my bridal shower, my mom and sister did a lot of the planning but would ask me lots of yes/no questions, for instance: Do you want to have games? Do you want a theme (and if so what type of theme)? That could help guide you a bit!

I agree with the idea of having something simple for a bachelorette on a budget. Keep it simple! Perhaps a girls’ day and/or evening – brunch or dinner, wine-tasting, paint nite, a sporting event, karaoke – all things I’ve seen included before! If you’re planning the parties for where she lives and you don’t live there, see if you can connect with some of her local friends or other local family members that can help you with ideas.

Post # 7
299 posts
Helper bee

You’re over thinking this, just ask her what she wants for her party.   Everyone has a different idea on how they’d like to celebrate.  And you don’t have to mention that it’s because you barely know her.   My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend and knows me very well and has asked what I want to do.   Plus,  it’ll be way better to throw her the party she wants rather than just guess and get it wrong.   

Post # 8
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Just ask! My Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t really know my likes and dislikes, I’m was glad she asked me ๐Ÿ™‚ shows you care 

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