- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2017
Ya’ll…I’m about to lose my mind!!
My fiance and I got engaged in April and we are getting married in November of 2017. I immediately asked my best friend of 10 years to be my MoH and now I am seriously starting to regret that choice. I’m going to do a bullet list of my issues that have popped up over the past 6 months.
- She is incredibly jealous of me having any other friends, especially the bridal party. I have 3 other girls in my party: 2 I met through my Fiance and 1 I became very close with through work. If I bring up any of the other ladies, my Maid/Matron of Honor loses her mind and starts acting very passive aggressive. Saying things like “Well I guess they’re you’re best friend, so you should probably just go hang out with them.” I have made it clear to her that she needs to at least TRY and get a long with my other girls, at least until this wedding is over, but she flat out refuses, saying “I don’t like them, I’m not going to like them. That’s it.”
- She is throwing a fit about odd aspects of my wedding. I initially wanted royal blue bridesmaids dresses, but have since changed my mind and want to go with a different color. When I brought this up to MoH she got legit mad at me and said “I wanted to wear the blue, I though we were wearing blue! I don’t want to wear a different color!” WHAT?!?!
- BACHELORETTE PARTY: I am a chill person. I don’t like going out to bars, I don’t like getting wasted, I would much rather just hang out with a few friends. So when the subject of the Bridal Party got brought up, she suggested going on a weekend trip to a major city a couple of states over. I flat out told her “I really don’t want to do something big, I would be much happier just having like a sleep over with the girls and watching some horror movies (MY FAVORITE THING TO DO IN THE WHOLE WORLD) and eat some junk food and drink some wine and beer. That sounds so nice to me!” and she just laughed and said “No, are you kidding me? That’s not what people do for bachelorette parties.” I’m at a loss. She KNOWS I’m not into partying a lot, I thought that the Bridal Party was supposed to be catering toward the Bride, doing what she would enjoy?
- Lastly: She is just plain mean to me. I didn’t notice to the full extent (That thinking back has been going on for years) until my Fiance starting noticing and brought it to my attention. She will continuously put me down when we’re around other people. My Fiance thinks it’s a self-esteem issue, where putting me down makes her feel better about herself. It’ll be over ANYTHING! “You can’t dance. You’re messy. Babies don’t like you, they love me hahahah.” Literally…ANYTHING SHE CAN THINK OF TO PUT ME DOWN ABOUT SHE’LL DO IT.
I’m sorry for the rant guys, I’m just at a loss here. I want so badly to kick her out or demote her, but I know I can’t do that since I’ve already asked her. And I want to ask one of my bridesmaids who got married last year to be my Matron of Honor, but I know that my current Maid/Matron of Honor would lose it and I would never hear the end of it.
Anyone have any advice to help me not lose my sanity?