(Closed) Maid of Honor Help!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@excitedbride2014:  Are you close enough with her that you can have a serious talk with her and tell her the way she behaved as the other brides Maid/Matron of Honor is NOT how she will behave with you?

Also, you could go the route of NOT having a Maid/Matron of Honor whatsoever because “there are too many wonderful girls to choose from”.

Post # 4
1640 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Do you have someone else you had wanted as MoH? Like if you have a sister or a lifelong friend, she sounds like she’d maybe get mad but would also be more understanding if you were like, “Listen, you’re really important to me and I def want you in the bridal party, but I want my sister/lifelong childhood friend to be MoH. It’s not about you it’s just that they’re family” or something like that.

Otherwise I’d just have to be straight with her. It doesn’t sound like she’d be very good for you and cause you a lot of stress if you went with her bc she assumed it. Assuming makes an ass out of you and me, after all.

Post # 5
3 posts

It seems like you’ve already made up your mind about not wanting Pushy Paula as your Maid/Matron of Honor. Don’t let her hold the “you’ll be my Maid/Matron of Honor so I should be yours” line over your head. Tell her something like, “I’m so glad you’re exited about my wedding. Kate is my Maid/Matron of Honor and I think she’d love to hear some of the shower ideas you’ve got.”

I was in a wedding last year with no Maid/Matron of Honor and it was… not ideal. No clear organization in terms of who would take charge of what. The bride asked us to give a group speech, and we didn’t plan it until we were doing hair the day of the wedding because we wanted everyone’s parts to flow together. I really think everyone was assuming someone else would step up. Like “Ann has known her the longest so she probably has a great idea for a speech” “Britt lives closest so she should be the one to look in to shower venues” “Caya is type A so she’s probably making sure Bride doesn’t need help” That kind of thing. The more people in your party, the more you need a Maid/Matron of Honor

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