(Closed) Maid of Honor help

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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slinktobee:  Is this girl going to be in your bridal party as a bridesmaid? What was the conversation like when she said she was your MOH?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Oh my goodness that’s awkward. I’d be interested to know more details like how close you are and the context in which she said this. If she’s going to be a bridesmaid, it seems fairly easy to remind her you’re close with your sister and she will be the Maid/Matron of Honor. If she’s not someone who you will ask to be a bridesmaid, just be polite but direct. Maybe give her an excuse to spare her feelings (like if you need to keep the bidal parties small or something) 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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slinktobee:  You should have told her from day 1 about wanting your sister, so she will probably feel like you led her on a bit. Either way, I think you should just be straight forward and tell her that you really want your Maid/Matron of Honor to be your sister and tell her that you value your friendship and you want her as a bridesmaid, but you have always envisioned your sister being your Maid/Matron of Honor. Tell her your sister would be crushed if you didn’t choose her. As a friend she should understand- especially because you are choosing a sibling and not giving the honor to another friend.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

When she’s said in the past that she was going to be your Maid/Matron of Honor, what did you say in response? Did you just go along with it or did you say something about your sister?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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slinktobee: I would just tell her that your sister has also been telling you she wants to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and as she is your sister, you want her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor. Hopefully she won’t take it too badly.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Please do not feel this is your fault.  No one with a brain ever assumes they will be Maid/Matron of Honor, and certainly not if bride has a sister.  

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