(Closed) Maid of Honor Help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Your maid of honor, your choice! Do what you want and feel in your heart. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’ve been to a few weddings where there have been multiple Maid/Matron of Honor. I will probably end up having two since I can’t choose one BFF over the other. Would you consider that?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have two maids of honor. You could do that. Or just choose your friend. Nobody should be able to dictate who your moh is!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have two also my sister and best friend.

Post # 8
Bee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

I’m having 2 maids of honor. I think you already got some great advice about having both or just choosing who YOU want, not who your family wants.

FWIW, one of my maids of honor is out of town and probably won’t come into town until late the night before the wedding (meaning she won’t be able to attend the rehearsal). I think it’s okay if she won’t be there the week before the wedding. As long as you have other friends/family nearby to help you will be fine!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No don’t need two best men. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Having been in a wedding with two MoH (i was a bridesmaid), I found it to be a little over-the-top, and over 10 years later, that’s the first thing anyone talks about when they talk about the wedding— no one says “oh the bride was lovely” or “the food was divine” or “what a great party” first.  It’s always “wasn’t that when there were two maids of honor?!”

Now that may just be unique to that specific wedding, and I’m sure there’s plenty of brides who find a way to make it work, but it’s put me off the idea of two MoH forever.

If I were faced with the OP’s decision I’d ask who’s paying. If Mom is paying, then Auntie is MoH.  If Bride is paying, then work friend is MoH.  Or just go without a MoH and make everyone a bridesmaid.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t choose someone just because your family is telling you too.  However, don’t choose someone just because they live close to you and can ‘help’ more.  The Maid/Matron of Honor should be the person you call in the middle of the night to help you hide a body.  Your BFF.  Its totally fine if that person is NOT your aunt.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@iluvballroom:  All of my bridesmaids and MOHs live 300-800 miles away so no one is near me. Last, year I was a Maid/Matron of Honor when the bride was 800 miles away still managed to throw her a great bachelorette party in NYC, find her invitations and give a lending ear.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m in Alabama and my Maid/Matron of Honor is in Colorado. She won’t really be a part of the planning process, but she’s my best friend, and I can’t imagine it any other way. You need to choose who you want, not who your family wants.

Post # 16
Bee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

We’re only having one best man, but you can choose to have two if you’d like. Anything goes! 🙂

@iluvballroom:  My mom doesn’t wanna do two maid of honors.


Oh honey, please stand up for yourself! This is YOUR wedding, not your mother’s!!You need to do what will make YOU happy!

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