Post # 31
I think I’m going to tell her I’m pregnant 🙂 It’s a level higher than the dumb smaller secrets she couldn’t keep in the past, and I think I can trust her to keep the secret for a few weeks. Besides, everyone else I’m really close with does know I’m pregnant, so it DOES feel silly that she doesn’t know.
I will leave all the rest up to her. I would hate not being able to be her maid of honor – we’ve had that set in stone for 19 years now! But we’ll see 🙂
Post # 32
A secret like this, though? Even if you told her how important it is to you that she tell no one?
ETA Cross posted.
Post # 33
I think telling her is a good plan, hope it all works out! Fwiw if she sticks with that date, my OB’s policy is that travel by plane is ok up to 34 weeks for a routine pregnancy. Of course everyone is different, but I’d be comfortable going at 34 weeks.
Post # 34
Good to know! If my doctor has a different policy, we could probably drive though, which doesn’t sound ideal, but we would probably make it a two-day trip and stop in Maryland or something.
I’m going to call her as soon as dinner is in the oven and I’ll post here what ends up happening 🙂
Post # 35
I know I was really lucky in my pregnancy, but I felt pretty great at 34 weeks and flew from TX to MO for a family wedding- wasn’t in the bridal party but I definitely got down on the dance floor! Granted your experience may be far different from mine but like others have said, I think it would be a lot easier to be maid of honor pregnant than with a small baby.
Post # 36
My SIL was a bridesmaid in our wedding and she gave birth two weeks later. I dont think its appropriate for you to ask her to change her wedding date. Let her know you’re pregnant when you’re ready to make the announcement and let her decide what she wants to do.
Post # 37
I just got off the phone with her and she is over the moon about the news!! She promised she won’t tell a soul, not even her fiance, because my husband wants to tell him.
The wedding will be on February 8. I will be 33 weeks at that point, and that’s definitely a relief for me 🙂 I told her I am honored to be asked, and I’m so excited for her!!!
She demanded to plan my baby shower lmao. I think we are all good!! Thanks bees for, if nothing else, letting my poor frazzled brain kick around these thoughts!!
Post # 38
I’m so glad this worked out!!
Post # 40
I am so happy that your conversation went well for your friend. I hope you and your friend have an amazing year celebrating each other!