Post # 17
You are most certainly being taken advantage of, but wow, I would have hired you in a second as my coordinator. Seriously, think about that.
But the bride problem…you have got to start saying no! You have done more than enough! Be honest with her, tell her that you feel you have done all you are willing to do (especially about the dress).
Post # 18
Wow. I agree with everyone else in that you are definitely being taken advantage of. Why not try sitting down with her and explaining how you feel about everything? That’s what I would do. She may not realize she’s over-tasking you (in an insane way!) because you’ve been so accomodating so she can’t tell you’re stressed. I’d definitely voice my frustration (in the nicest way though so not to hurt any feelings). Maybe it’ll open her eyes to just how over-the-top she’s being with the Maid/Matron of Honor duties. Heck I haven’t asked my Maid/Matron of Honor to do anything except help me assemble my invitations. By The Way I think its absolutely amazing that you altered a wedding dress that was two sizes too small! I can’t even sew a button on 🙂 I hope everything works out for you!
Post # 19
Girl, you’ve got to (wo)man up! Sounds like this friend doesn’t have a great sense about when too much is too much, but you’re the one who controls your actions. Obviously this is too much. It’s completely reasonable to say no and that’s what you’re going to need to do.
Post # 20
I haven’t even read the responses, but I am utterly blown away by the expectations placed on you by both brides, especially the second one.
Personally, I would never dream of asking a friend to do anything more than buy a dress and attend the wedding. A shower or bachelorette is icing on the cake, but not required. And I would never ask someone to help with so many pre-wedding preparations. That’s disgusting.
Your first friend is out of line for dictating the terms of her bachelorette and shower. Your second friend is an out and out bridezilla.
You NEED to learn to say NO. Everything she asks you from here on out, just say no. You have the perfect excuse, your own freaking wedding!