(Closed) Maid of Honor not attending shower or bachelorette (VENT!)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Remember we all are human and sometimes forget things. She may have never even realized until now that her husband being a Bridesmaid or Best Man was the same time as your party.  Life gets busy things happen.   I am sorry this is happening, I am sure she probably feels bad to. I would give her a call and talk to her. 

Post # 4
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well that stinks and I’m sorry. I would ask perhaps if there was a way she could skip something of her husbands and make it to one of your events.

Post # 5
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That sucks, but I can see how it would happen. Darling Husband is a groomsman in a wedding this summer, and I am still not sure when in the summer this wedding is (I have asked him to find out several times, and he keeps forgetting to ask the groom).

Stuff happens, as long as she is there for your wedding she is doing her duty. Laughing

Post # 7
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t have any advice fro you but I’d be mad.  I don’t see why her husband can’t go to the wedding he’s in, and she go to your stuff. They can split up for the weekend. I would say she may have forgotten but combined with her uninvolvement in the shower/bachelorette that sounds sort of weird. I’d talk to her about how you feel and since if there’s anything else going on with her that’s impacting all this. Honestly I’d be really angry at my Maid/Matron of Honor if she wasn’t around for that stuff for me, no matter what was going on with her husband or whatever. Couples can do stuff apart

Post # 9
3943 posts
Honey bee

I know youre disappointed but things happen. With both her and her husband in weddings, plus 2 kids, I am sure she has a million dates running through her mind and she probably just completely forgot. It stinks, but things happen.

Post # 10
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

At least it’s not the wedding she can’t come to. It’s the parties. I wouldn’t be too pissed and damage a friendship over a shower and a party.

Post # 12
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@7-9-11bride: Oh I would like to vent too! My sister and Maid/Matron of Honor is not attending my Bachelorette party. She only lives three hours away in D.C. I know she could come for one night. I wish I could talk to my mom about it but she always sides with my sister and sympathazies because my sister is in graduate school! Nothing I can do about it. Just sad. Really sad and disappointing. 

Post # 13
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’m usually in the “your wedding is more important to you than anyone else” boat, but in this case, i’d be mad too.  you already changed your date for her once.  she didn’t offer to help organize any of these events.  and now she forgot the date.  not cool.

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