- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2019
Most of my wedding party came naturally to me and is set in stone, but my Maid/Matron of Honor is not.
I have a friend I’ve known since childhood who I am still close with to this day. She is married, so I plan on making her my Matron of Honor. I was the maid of honor in her wedding. She is the strongest person I know so she is a great shoulder to cry on. She has already gotten married so she has already given me tons of tips and advice.
But I also have another friend who I’ve known since high school who, before I moved across the country 2 years ago, I was pretty close to. I think she would consider us to be as close as we were before I moved, but she is not good at keeping in touch so I don’t feel like we are as close now. We will be texting and she will simply stop answering me mid-conversation. She has always done this and her being a “bad texter” is something we often joke about. But I see that as a detrement if I were to make her my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s also emotionally unstable (cancels on plans because she has too much anxiety about going out, etc.), so I don’t pin her for the type of person who could be there for me emotionally as a Maid/Matron of Honor should be.
This girl was in communication with my fiance about the ring and helped him narrow down a few options, so I feel like that’s a reason to give her Maid/Matron of Honor status. I have also known her since high school, making her my second oldest friend. She has often told me she wants me to be a co-MOH with her other best friend for her wedding someday. I know not adding her would make her upset even if she didn’t show it, and I don’t want her to not be happy/excited for me because she’s just a bridesmaid. However I also don’t feel like I should lie about how close we really are. I really do love her personality and overall she’s a good friend (when she’s around/available), but if she’s this bad at keeping in touch I wonder what will happen when we both get married and start families since we live so far away. And if we don’t keep in touch 5 years from now, what is the point?
Sorry this is so long! Hope you can help!