(Closed) Maid of Honor QUIT

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ask a close Bridesmaid or Best Man if she would take the place of the Maid/Matron of Honor.  YOu need a MOH-like person to sign the license at the wedding.  This will leave you with an extra Groomsmen who can either be demoted to an usher or walk by himself or one of the mom’s or grandmother’s down the isle.

I hope you’re okay!   Hugs!

Post # 4
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh no!  I’m sorry this happened to you ๐Ÿ™  What an awful thing to happen at your bachelorette party.  You don’t have to have even sides for BMs and GMs, and you don’t really need a Maid/Matron of Honor.  I think it’s a personal choice as to whether or not you want to ask another Bridesmaid or Best Man.  I hope things work out for you! 

Post # 5
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@msjordanann: yikes!!! so sorry to hear this!!!!  

Not sure what I’d do, but then I wasn’t planning on having a Maid/Matron of Honor.  That was more a plan between my Fiance and me to help cheer up a friend (it kinda sorta worked).  

Not sure about the requirement for signing the liscense.  that varies depending on the state you live in.  Some require two signatures, other states… require none.  I know, weird, huh?

Post # 6
4499 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sorry this happened.

As far as wedding logistics, you’re fine. The best man can walk with any of the bridesmaids, and any witness can sign your marriage license. We had 2 random guests sign our license, actually, not our Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man.

I’m not sure if I would ask one of the BMs to step up at this point. On the one hand, you’d been planning to have a Maid/Matron of Honor, so it’ll be a bit sad for you (I imagine) not to have one. On the other hand, as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I might kind of feel like second best if I were asked at this point to be Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s also nice, I think, having all your BMs on the same level–so that they’re all sort of Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man at the same time.

It all depends on what you really want, what your relationship with the other BMs is (is there a very obvious choice for a replacement MOH?), and how you phrase everything.

Post # 7
6995 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i am so sorry you are going through this! if its important to have a Maid/Matron of Honor i would ask one of your BM’s but i dont think you HAVE to have one.

 while all the BM’s were matched up with the groomsmen….My Maid/Matron of Honor actually walked down by herself because the Best Man was already at the alter with my husband ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 8
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Aww, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this – I had the same thing happen (she sent me an email) and I was devastated. Take some time, things will work out, and don’t worry about how it will “look” to have the best man walk alone, or have him walk with your mom or something?

Post # 9
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That stinks ๐Ÿ™ I would not replace the Maid/Matron of Honor though, for the same reasons @stillme outlined. Fiance has a groomsman whose wife is due around the time of our wedding, so he may not be able to make it. I know it’s a different situation, but… he’s still a groomsman, and if he can’t come, we’ll just have 3 groomsmen and 4 bridesmaids and have one guy with two chicks on one arm ๐Ÿ™‚

You only need a witness for the marriage license. Just ask the girl to your left to sign it.

Post # 10
1 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Mine just did the same thing!  I am heartbroken!

Post # 11
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

sooo sorry! You are lucky to have some amazing friends to fall back on.

We have fewer bridesmaids than groomsmen–it will be ok. We are considering having the groomsmen walk first, followed by the groom, then the bridesmaids and the bride (me), but we haven’t figured that out yet…


Post # 12
189 posts
Blushing bee

Why does there seem to be a rash of wedding attendants quitting? Unless there are real issues in the friendship, why would someone do this? I would be heartbroken also, yet relieved. I wouldnt want someone who obviously has no respect for my wedding standing up there with me.

Post # 13
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@exoticmariee:  I was wondering the exact same thing.  Maybe it’s the economy and bridesmaids can’t afford $700 bridesmaids dresses, bachelorette parties in Vegas, multiple showers, etc. Lol!

OP – not saying you are requesting any of those things.  I’m sorry your Maid/Matron of Honor bailed.  Not cool!

Post # 14
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Blah, I have the same drama….  I think its in the water or something.  though mine hasnt officially quit yet.  Just publically posted on a forum she never thought I’d see that she doesnt want to be in it, so yeah, Maid/Matron of Honor status pending over here….  I’ll be ur Maid/Matron of Honor if you be mine  ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 15
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor will also be walking down alone because the Best man will already be at the front with the groom, so you dont absolutely need to have a moh

Post # 16
197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sort of on the same page except I kind of wish my Maid/Matron of Honor would quit even though it would break my heart.  I’d rather have that than her seeming complete lack of care and attention.  She seems to get not just bored but annoyed when I bring up wedding talk.  That is stressing me out and it hurts.  I don’t expect her to be as involved/obsessed as I am but I do expect a little excitement when I tell her that I ordered FH’s wedding band :o(

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