(Closed) Maid of Honor, then bridesmaid, the FIRED??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

yikes thats a tough one. How long have you been trying to contact her? Make sure nothing happend to her first. Once you’ve confirmed she is alive and well I would ask what the problem is and if there is anything you could do ti fix it. If you were good friends you should at least try to find out what ended the friendship. And if she is still not responsive then try tp return the dress yourself or sell it online. Hopefully there is a reasonable explination for this….. 

Post # 4
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is your wedding way more elaborate than hers?  Have you been bragging?  I don’t know what to tell you, you haven’t really given me any reason to believe that she had enough reason to be so jealous that she got mad at you, but obviously she thinks she does.  No idea why?

Post # 5
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671 posts
Busy bee

omg! From Maid/Matron of Honor to nothing?! She prob IS really jealous.. I don’t know if there is anything you can do unfortunately.. it sounds like you have tried to get in contact with her and find out the problem to rectify it.. just let her go.. 

Post # 8
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@FindleyBridetobe: if thats the case then i agree with Karissa, just let her go. Its really petty to not be friends with someone bc you are jealous of their wedding. And she should have at least been woman enough to tell you instead of ignoring you and deleting you from fb. Sorry you have to go through this…

Post # 9
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Send her an email and a text.

Tell her that she is a good friend and you are so happy for her marriage and was looking forward to being able to be with her on that day, but you are getting the signals that she doesnt want you in the wedding. Can you please explain why or what I have done wrong. I would like to talk about it.  If she doesnt respond do either after a week I would return the dress.  

No need to tell her that it was rude to by a dress and then do this. Its ALL rude. She knows it.

Post # 11
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Maybe her wedding has been cancelled and she deleted all the info from her FB account, as well as friends so she didn’t have to explain? Can you see other people on there or through other mutual friends? She most definitely owes you an explanation.

Post # 12
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520 posts
Busy bee

@lefeymw:  You summed it up perfectly!!!!!!!  Excellent advice.

Post # 14
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

That’s pretty cowardly and childish then,huh?  Wow. What a mess.

Post # 16
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@FindleyBridetobe: I just thought I was owed an explanation. As a friend.

You are.  Unfortunately, that doesn’t mean you’ll get one.  You’ve done your best, continuing to call her will only irritate her further, so I guess I agree with PPs that it’s best to just cut your losses and leave her be.  That’s really sad, though, I’m sorry. 

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