Post # 1
My wedding is in less than 2 weeks. My maid of honor has been very difficult this entire time. To start, she doesnt get along with any of my other bridesmaids. She has complained about how much money she is spending to my, and saying how poor she is now. I havent asked for anything other than the normal (dress and shoes, and the cost of shower and bachelorette.) I told my girls I was paying for their hair and makeup and she is the only one who hasn’t even said thank you. This past weekend was my bachelorette. The whole morning she pouted with a puss on her face and was on her cell phone. During the night she seemed ok (but alcohol was involved) and the next morning was right back to moping. But the kicker to all this was when I found out she was bad talking the party on twitter. I dont have twitter, so she didnt think I would notice. I was so sad, and hurt to see that. I dont know what to do. I want to ask her what her problem is and does she even want to be a part of this? But at the same time I dont want to add to my stress level any more since I have other things to think about. Any thoughts??
Post # 3
A friend of mine had one of those bridesmaids. She kicked her out 3 weeks before the wedding and asked me to step in. She even bought the dress she was supposed to wear back and I picked it up and got it fitted that week.
I don’t think it added to Erin’s stress any. Her bridesmaid was stressing. and really the biggest stress for me was I had to find shoes and hang out with my ex all day.
Post # 4
I’m sorry you are having a bad time with your Maid/Matron of Honor. Honestly, with just two weeks left to go I wouldn’t say anything. There’s not much that can be done at this point. If she backs out or you ask her to step down someone is going to lose money and possibly a friendship. I would just lean on the people that want to help you out and let her deal with whatever she’s dealing with.
Just to play devil’s advocate a little, I was a bridesmaid in a wedding of a close friend almost 10 years ago. I was fresh out of college, living at home and barely had two pennies to rub together. I expressed all of this when she asked me to be a bridesmaid and she assured me that she would keep costs low. Well…$1000 later I was seriously resenting her AND her wedding, including all the “fun” events that cost the bridal party money. Granted, I was nice to her and excited for her the entire time, however, had she ASKED me if I was ok with my “duties” I might have said something awful and possibly ruined the relationship. Maybe $1000 was her idea of keeping costs low but it wasn’t mine. That being said I should’ve asked more questions or said something before it was too late. My point is you never know what the other person is thinking or going through. Maybe your friend is going through a hard time financially and the bachelorette party was more of a pain than a celebration for her. Maybe she didn’t anticipate all of the costs and now she’s embarrassed and frustrated. You just never know. Anyway, I wouldn’t say anything until your back from your honeymoon. Two weeks before the wedding is a terrible time to confront something like this.