(Closed) maid of honor vs matron of honor

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3809 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999


I have both and will have my maid closest to me.

Post # 4
1434 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I’ll be the matron at my best friend’s wedding, and I’ll be closest. I think it should depend on who you’re closer to…


Post # 6
1835 posts
Buzzing bee

I really don’t think it matters, but if you need a technical reason I believe it’d be Matron of Honor closest since she’s the one with the “most” honor. That said, I was the Maid of Honor in my best friend’s wedding and stood closest to her then the Matron of Honor was right after me.

Post # 7
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it’s a personal preference. I have both a maid and a matron of honor and at this point I think the maid of honor (a friend) will stand closest to me during the ceremony, and I’ll have the matron of honor (my sister) be the witness.

Post # 8
3578 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The only difference between “maid” and “matron” is that a maid is unmarried and a matron is married. Like the difference between “Miss” and “Mrs”.

You can have them stand in whatever order you want.

Post # 9
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@elizabeth2004: I agree with this…. I would say whoever is signing as a witness to the wedding on the certificate itself should stand closest to you. But it’s of course your preference

Post # 10
856 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My Matron of Honor will stand next to me, followed by my Maid of Honor. I’m close to both girls but I’m closest with my Matron. I was able to avoid any hurt feelings, though, because the height of my Matron and the best man are a good match and my Maid is super tall just like the second groomsman.

I really think it comes down to personal preference.


Post # 11
8373 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I married much later in life than most of my close friends, and I served as maid of honor for three of my friends’ weddings. That meant that they all would have had to have been matrons of honor in mine, if I chose to honor them. 

I ended up picking the two friends with whom I was closest at the time of the engagement/wedding, and they were both my matrons of honor.  The one standing next to me had been my friend for the longest period of time of the two ladies I chose. (Ironically, because I could not justify having three matrons of honor, and I did not want to relegate the other friend — whom I’ve known since childhood! — to just being another bridesmaid, I actually did not have her in my wedding at all. I did, however, have her upstairs in the brides room with me, and I had her in the wedding pics of me with my two matrons pf honor and closest bridesmaid, as those four women have been such incredibly important influences in my life.

Post # 12
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@abbyful: *facepalm* I never knew this; I’m glad you clarified.

Post # 13
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think TECHNICALLY the matron should stand closer, but through this past year and all of my planning thus far my Matron has been pretty MIA and my Maid of Honor has been indespensible. My Fi and I both agree that we want to Maid to hold the rings and stand closet to us. What I might do is have them stand side by side with the shortest one if front so they are both seen.

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