(Closed) Maid of honor…speech? Chaos!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You should try spending time with him between now and the wedding. You even said that you barely know him, so maybe you need to give him another chance. If all else fails, focus the speech on your relationship with the bride and toast to what you WISH for the couple, rather than how you perceive their relationship. 

Post # 4
41 posts
  • Wedding: May 2015

i dont really think its a bad thing to volunteer for deployment. There may be many other factors involved which you are unaware of? Eg deployment pay, promotions etc. I am ex- Navy myself. I do agree with @Krpink, try to spend some time between now and the wedding getting to know him. If it fails, most brides at the weddings I have been to do not give a speech, maybe you can ask her what she would like to say to her guests (how they met, thanking everyone etc) and include it in your speech. Good luck!

Post # 5
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Give this relationship a chance.

Think about it from her perspective: “I met this man bla bla we’re deeply in love, it is like no other relationship, when you know you know and I don’t want to delay our happiness however my Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t agree and it has me brokenhearted”.


If from now to the wedding you really don’t find anything nice to say about this relationship, do a speech mostly about you and your friend and how you’re so happy that she found love and happiness and you wish her a lifetime of those things.

Post # 6
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

Every wedding I’ve been to, the Maid/Matron of Honor tells a bit of a story about the bride and the Best Man tells a bit of a story about the groom, I don’t think anyone will expect you to gush about him. Honestly if it were me I’d just talk about how dedicated they are to each other, how happy you are for them to have found each other’s soulmate, and how wonderful it is to spend your life with somebody. Better than nothing at all!

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