Post # 1
I have been given an amazing opportunity to be my best friends maid of honour! <3
I have never ever done anything like this before so I am really nervous.
My best friend has her shit together, shes the supportive, knows exactly what to say best friend.
I sometimes worry that I won’t do a good job… does anyone whose been a maid of honour in my situation have any advice?
Post # 2
bird123 : I thought you were upset because your best friend didn’t even ask you to be a bridesmaid.
Or, is this a different best friend?
Post # 3
julies1949 : This is actually the best friend that I refer to in my other posts! 🙂 shes getting married as well… confusing i know haha
Post # 4
bird123 : I’ve been Maid/Matron of Honor a couple of times, there’s not THAT much to it. I planned fun bachelorette parties for both, went dress shopping, and helped them get ready on their special day. Oh, and of course made a thoughtful speech for both.
Hopefully your friend doesnt expect you to spend hours on DIY projects, or demand some super lavish bachelorette party or bridal shower. Those expectations are hard to live up to but it’s also not a MOH’s “job”.
Post # 5
futuremrs2020 : Okay phew.. makes me feel a little better <3 noooo she is so laid back… im more so worried about not knowing what to say or what to do if she needs advice or is in a cirsis! I’ve never had a wedding either!
I just overthink everything lol.
Post # 6
bird123 : Thank goodness she made you Maid/Matron of Honor. Now you can plan the bridal shower and bachelorette party you’ve always dreamed of. Dont worry if the bride tries to throw her opinion in, you can just say you want to “surprise” her.
Post # 7
nikkiv1313 : ??? thanks i guess?? lol
Post # 8
Buy a book or rent one from a library. But most of all just ask her what she’d like help with. As long as she knows you’re eager to help, then your job is done.
But, most maid of honors also throw/ host the bachelorette party and shower if any.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Just be there and be supportive whenever she needs to vent or asks for help. But don’t let wedding planning take over your friendship – yes her wedding is important, but it doesn’t give her the right to ignore what’s going on in your life and make it all about her wedding 24/7. I’m not saying she’s going to be like that, but don’t be afraid to speak up if your frienship starts to feel like it revolves around you being her Maid/Matron of Honor.
Typically the Maid/Matron of Honor plans the bachelorette, but I’ve found it’s more common for relatives to host the bridal shower but definitely talk to her and her mom to see what they’d like to do.
All in all, it’s usually not a big job lol. Be there for her, help her when she needs it (within reason). You’ll do fine!
Post # 10
There really isn’t that much to it at all, but if you would like to be more involved and help out with planning or pre-wedding events, etc, just ask her what she’d like help with 🙂