Post # 1
just need some advice,not judgements,
I was a maid of honour for a close friends wedding earlier this year
I went above and beyond for her so to speak I made all her church pews by hand
etc and amongst other things and I also flew interstate to be there.
and now I’m engaged to be married next year and I haven’t really heard a peep out of her and
then I get a Facebook saying she can only come a day or two before the wedding and then have to leave to day after,her reason for this is that she doesn’t want to take too much time off work
and its gonna cost abit as its interstate but I thought she would be abit more enthusiastic about it. Am I just worrying too much
Post # 3
Have you already asked her? If not, is there someone more local you can ask? I understand that the wedding party is only really required to show up on the day of but it’s always nice when they’re enthusiastic about your day 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
You have to remember that they’re only required to be there for you that ONE DAY. Anything else is optional, and if she can be there 1-2 days prior then that’s great! Honestly some people just have a hard time taking off work, either because their boss discourages it or they need the money. Since she just got married not too long ago I’m betting it could be either of those two things. She’s also not required to stay there afterward. Just be thankful that she’s in your wedding and going to be there on the big day. 🙂
Post # 5
A day or two before is fine for someone who is coming from out of town even if if is a Maid/Matron of Honor. Remember, this is your wedding but it’s her vacation time and so her boss isn’t as likely to be as understanding. My coworker has 7 weddings this year and all his vacation time is planned around it. She may be balancing other things and wanting to manage your expectations.
Post # 6
It’s easy to get disappointed when you feel like you’ve done more for someone than they’ve done for you. However, the things we do for people shouldn’t come with strings; give gladly, or don’t give.
It can be really hard for people to get time off work. One of my BMs makes most of her money on the weekends (retail) and she’s already given up an amazing amount of time for us with the dress shopping, engagement party, etc – I’ve already asked her not to sweat coming to other events if it’s going to cost her time at work, which costs her money as well.
It’s understandable that you want your friend there, but unless you know for a fact she’s lying (which would be weird), try to remember that she’s probably doing everything she can to be as involved as possible. Everyone has their own life.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
It sounds like she is making an effort by going out early for your wedding. Your wedding is still a ways away, so I wouldn’t expect to be hearing too much from her unless you have asked her things specifically?