(Closed) Maid of Honour worries

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Um, its NOT your mom’s wedding. She should be happy that you are getting married and that you have lovely sisters and friends. Though that may not be the case. I think you need to live your own life and pick your own Maid/Matron of Honor so you don’t live with regrets.

Maybe you can STILL invite Sister #2 to be a bridesmaid, and then tell your mom you don’t want to hurt either sisters feelings?

Or tell your mom the truth that your sister is aokay with being a bridesmaid, your Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and that switching roles to make your mom happy will NOT make the three women involved happy. So less drama to do what the people who will actually be doing it want.

Also if you make sister your Maid/Matron of Honor and your Boyfriend or Best Friend ends up assuming the Maid/Matron of Honor duties because she wants to do it for you badly- then she gets the responsbility with none of the honor. No fun there.

Post # 4
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2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

sound to me like you want BF# 1

Do what you want.

And if you and Boyfriend or Best Friend already have talked about it that is how it should be. I’d never ask a sister to be a Maid/Matron of Honor even if I wasn’t close with one it still makes them feel left out

 

Post # 5
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588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I thought the same thing initially and assumed my mother would be upset if my sister wasn’t my Maid/Matron of Honor but when we got engaged and I tlaked to her about it she only cared that she was included in the wedding party and understood why I choose my friend instead.

So maybe talk to your mom and sister about it?

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