- 6 years ago
Hi bees! I’ve been reading these boards for a while and finally decided to register to benefit from the wisdom of these boards
I’m not engaged but SO and I have talked a lot about marriage recently, been ring shopping a few times and both would really like to get married spring/summer 2014. So hopefully a proposal will happen in the next little while! There’s something I would really like to figure out before I get engaged though. Hopefully you ladies can help!
I have two best friends who I am really close with (BF#1 and BF#2), but BF#1 and I are closer, talk every day and have always said we’d be each other’s MOHs. I have two sisters, but one is really not in touch with my family anymore and definitely won’t be in the bridal party. Because of that, my mom talked to me recently to say she’d really like my other sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. It had never come up before because I have two sisters, so I always figured they would be bridesmaids and BF#1 would be Maid/Matron of Honor.
So this is my dilemma: Mom really wants my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor, BF#1 assumes she is Maid/Matron of Honor, and if I have them both then I really think BF#2 would feel left out! I don’t think I can do no Maid/Matron of Honor and only have bridesmaids without upsetting both mom and BF#1. For the record, I think they would both be awesome MOHs. I’ve talked to my sister about this and she has said she is totally happy to be a bridesmaid and always thought BF#1 would be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I’m also pretty sure that BF#1 will be very surprised and upset if she isn’t Maid/Matron of Honor. It’s very important to me that my mom is happy with my decision though…can anyone think of a compromise?
I know it probably seems silly to worry about this without even being engaged, but I know that as soon as it happens, BF#1 is going to be over at my house with a Maid/Matron of Honor binder or something (she’s said this!).