(Closed) MAID OF HORROR….Need some advice.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

Tell her to stop contacting you and she is not invited to the wedding. Seriously. The girl is crazy, and I’m sorry she’s put you through all of this.

Post # 4
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624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh man sorry this is happening to you! I think if she went to those drastic measures to make you unhappy then there must be something else going on. Not to mention she got you fired! That seems odd…. If it were me I would probably ask her not to be in the wedding anymore. If she’s gone this far then think of what she’ll do at the wedding.

Post # 5
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Break up with her.  This sounds as though you are in an abusive relationship with her.

Post # 5
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

PPs’ advice says it all.

You should consider whether or not you have legal recourse if you’ve been fired over a non-performance-related issue. That’s just wrong.

Post # 5
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think this is one of those times where you should ask a maid of honor to step down. Your wedding is suppose to be a happy time not like this.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bellagio:I agree. This person is not a friend anymore and doesn’t sound like she was much of one to begin with. Tell her not to contact you, block her number, cut all ties with her.

I’m sorry you are going through this. It is terrible but know you ARE NOT being selfish in any way. You haven’t made any ridiculous demands like a weekend in Vegas she can’t afford or something you just wanted to hang out. That is not selfish, that is normal.

Be done with her and be firm about it. When you tell her not to contact you, don’t go back on it later or it will be just more hell.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@atalante:This also. I don’t know the laws of your state but being arbitrarily fired is illegal in many states and the would owe you potential wages or your job back.

Post # 8
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624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Agree with @Corilee13: If you got fired for no reason at all there is probably something you can do about that. I would check it out.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It sounds like this has been a one sided friendship for a long time but you are just realizing now how bad it is due to the wedding. She seems really selfish and super jealous of you, maybe her own marriage isn’t that great or maybe she’s jealous about you having more money than her.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Lauren10.8.11: any “right to work” state does not need a reason to hire/fire e.g. PA you dont need a “cause” to fire someone.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes, the Maid/Matron of Honor is for sure acting crazy.  But the reason is why?  You’ve been friends with her for 10 years, that’s a long time.  And really your only close friend, so you’ve spent tons of time together.  There is something deep here, you unintentionally pissed her off/hurt her or something like that.  It seems this situation went WAY too far… you should’ve had lunch with her a long time ago and really got to the root of the problem in a calm civilized manner.  As much as she’s acting like a psycho and you want to write her off (you may have to right now?), but if you want to salvage this relationship, at some point (perhaps after the wedding?) you need to have a calm discussion.

But I am truly sorry you are going through this, I’m sure it’s very very very hard. She should’ve stepped down months ago if she wanted nothing to do with it.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Kick her out of the wedding and your life. She is selfish and demanding. End of story! 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

these posts always make me wonder why people have bridal parties at all, but now I think I get it:

it makes us reexamine our relationship patterns and see whether the people around us are toxic or not.

(I chose not to have a bridal party because I think it just invites unrealiztic expectations and drama)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

dump her as a friend. it will be hard but with that stress gone you will feel amazing

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