- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
OK so my Maid of Honor and all but one of my BMs are my college friends and my Matron of Honor is my high schoold friend and doesn’t really know the rest of them. They’ve met and hung out a few times now and everything was fine and everyone that was there got along.
So my MaidOH was heading up organizing my bachelorette party and she sent a group email and people were throwing around ideas and stuff (it is a surprise so I don’t know many of the deets). Basically what I told MaidOH was that my only requirements were that the guest list be so and so, we get out of NYC, and no male strippers in banana hammocks because GROSS. Other than that, I said, go to town. So apparently there has been a massive power struggle going on between MaidOH and MatronOH because what MatronOH suggested wasn’t really what anyone else wanted to do and also was in NYC which I said I didn’t want (not to MatronOH but MaidOH knew I said that to her). So basically MatronOH got outvoted. Oh well, right? Deal with it, right? Wrong. Apparently MatronOH has now been super passive aggressive with MaidOH about it and is all it’s expensive, financial trouble blah blah blah I don’t know if I can come. Now, what SHE was originally suggesting is apparently the same amount of money per person, so that’s a bulls**t excuse and she’s clearly just pissed she didn’t get her way.
Yesterday, MaidOH tells me that MatronOH (who is close with my mom) went around her and has been emailing with my mom about the shower. I had briefly mentioned to MaidOH that I didn’t want them (BMs) to be responsible for the shower because they are already doing the bachelorette and I would just organize some low key thing with my mom and Future Mother-In-Law and they didn’t have to worry about it. So now basically MaidOH feels like MatronOH doesn’t like her and she’s done with the passive aggressiveness, which is totally understandable. I see where MatronOH is coming from but she’s not approaching the situation the right way. I hope that there’s no ill feelings between them. I went over to MaidOH’s last night and basically explained MatronOH’s personality to her and told her she’s kinda a control freak sometimes and not to take it personal and just to let her do the shower with my mom so she feels like she “won” that battle or whatever, but I’m still worried now that (a) MatronOH won’t come to the bachelorette and (b) there will be weird tension between MatronOH and the rest of the BMs (MaidOH in particular).