(Closed) Mail yourself an invitation?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I mailed one to my parents just because I know I love getting mail, i figured my mom would get excited getting it in the mail. But I also considered just handing them a copy so it is a nice perfect version of it. Instead of possibly getting dirty in the mail, or the ink stamps they use and such. As a keepsake.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

Of course you should send your parents an invitation!  Just because they’re paying for the wedding, it doesn’t mean they wouldn’t be as thrilled as any other guest (or moreso, actually) to get the "official" invitation.  Getting one in the mail is so much more exciting than just being handed one, too.  I would think that it is, in the least, a generous gesture of thanks for all that they’re paying for, since they obviously don’t need it for the logistics, and it will also be a nice keepsake of their daughter’s wedding.

If you’re having the invitations calligraphied, I’d also have one addressed to you and your groom — not to mail, but to keep as a keepsake.  At least, that’s what I plan to do.  Also remember to hold onto a few extras to save for yourself and a "clean" extra for your parents (one that didn’t go through the mail so it’s not banged up at all). 

Just my thoughts!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

My mother was waiting for mine at her mailbox, I swear!  She would have been very upset if she didn’t receive one.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

They’re going to like seeing their names and a beautiful invitation. Most couples like having a keepsake also, and sending it through the mail is just a touch more authentic than keeping it without adding the extra touches. The caligraphy especially!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I sent an invitation to them even though they told me not to.  I told them they better hurry up and RSVP themselves so they know they are coming!!!  I also had caligraphy done and I wish I had one done in mine or his name as part of my keepsake item.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I would definitely mail your parents one, as well as to yourself. I have done lots of work events and I always do this so I know the invites have arrived with other guests. While it’s not a sure-fire way of knowing they have recieved them, it still gives you a little piece of mind.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Definitely mail your parents and either keep one for yourself or if others are sending, have them mail one- we realized in the end we did not even have a copy of our invitation for ourselves for albums and stuff

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

We were going to mail ourselves an invitation on our wedding day so that the postmark would have our date.  But I’m getting married on a Federal holiday, so we are going to do it the day after. 

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