(Closed) Main boss at work hasn’t said a word to me about being pregnant

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly? Not cool but not everyone is a congratulatory type person. Or maybe she hasn’t felt there has been an opportunity yet to congratulate you. Or maybe she herself has some negative history with having kids and stepping up to congratulate someone is hard for her. Or maybe, she’s picked up on the vibe that you’re not her biggest fan.

It sounds like you don’t really like her anyway, I wouldn’t let it bother you. Just focus on yourself 🙂

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Did you tell her specifically? Maybe she is sour about the fact that she is your superior’s superior that you did not tell her one on one?

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

While it’s a little weird, I wouldn’t sweat it.  She sounds like someone who prioritizes her own circle of people and doesn’t care much about anyone else.  I consider myself close to my boss, but aside from my offical notice, we haven’t talked about the pregnancy all that much, and really only as it pertains to business related stuff.

One thought is that if you’re actively being considered for a promotion, maybe she’s trying to ‘ignore’ your pregnancy for now, so that you couldn’t claim discrimination if you don’t get the job? (but it sounds like there’s a lot of favoritism already at play, so who knows)

The other factor, is that women can have a lot of reasons for not getting excited about another woman’s pregnancy, that are rooted in their own life experiences rather than you. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I guess it depends on ya’lls relationship.  It doesn’t sound like you two have any kind of relationship at all so maybe that’s why she hasn’t said anything.  From the way it sounds like she got her job she probably feels like no one likes her anyways so she might just be keeping to herself.  

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I 100% agree with @MerryC:.  You really don’t know how your pregnancy will affect anyone else – it could be very painful for her to face pregnant women and just can’t handle congratulationing you.  It sucks, but it’s probably not about you. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@abbyful:  I understand what you’re going through. Everyone in my office has either congratulated me or acknowledged my pregnancy except for my boss’s boss. There are about 25 people in my office. I don’t expect someone to fawn over the fact that I’m pregnant but acknowledgement would be nice, especially when my office is RIGHT next door to hers!

Sorry that you’re having to deal with this!

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