(Closed) Main of honor disappointment

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

You admit yourself that things are strained. You also took the time to tell her that she didn’t need to feel obligated to make you Maid/Matron of Honor. While I get that this hurts you, you gave her the “in” to make her other friend Maid/Matron of Honor, and rightfully so. 

If there are any negative feelings leftover from your wedding, she probably doesn’t want to hash that stuff out during her planning. You are still dear to her! You are a BM!

Post # 3
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Every bride is allowed to pick whomever they want to be in their wedding party. Just because she didn’t pick you as her Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t mean she loves you any less.

Post # 4
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldnt fret too much.  Maybe if she didnt ask you to be in her wedding at all, I would wonder but you are in her party.  Make an effort to help with planning and continue to be a friend and dont stress about it.  Just because she was your Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt mean she is obliged to make you hers, whether you gave her an out or not!

Post # 5
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I feel you. You did all the right things, said the right things – but no matter, it sucks! Regardless of the situation with an ex, it’s never fun to see him with the new girlfriend and that is the perfect analogy for this sutuation. I agree with everyone else – it doesn’t mean you aren’t friends, etc. … But it still hurts. And especially since you had made a point to not feel obligated, it would have been nice for her to make a point to say something to you ahead of time. It would still hurt, but at least might have felt a little better about it. Hang in there! 

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