posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: WHAT TO DO?
    Keep the dress it will be fine and they will look different. : (77 votes)
    93 %
    Have her order another dress asap since you ordered yours first. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Look for a different dress for yourself even though you ordered it first. : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    With different accesssories, in different colours and in different shapes and sizes, you will look different. Nobody but you will notice. Don’t worry about it!

    Post # 4
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Well not for nothing, but you can’t MAKE her order another dress and it would be pretty rude to try to get her to do that.  You’re making so many changes that no one is going to notice they’re the same dress but you have to decide if you can personally be ok with it.

    Post # 5
    291 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    what dress is it? im sure no one will notice.

    Post # 6
    6225 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    It would be ridiculously rude to ask her to order another dress (you can’t “have her” order another dress, that is extremely presumptuous of you). I’m sure a lot of the guests at your wedding won’t be the same, and they won’t remember. Even if they do, it’s not a big deal. Whose wedding is first?

    Post # 7
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    People won’t notice, especially if you’re making changes to your dress. Your accessories, hair, etc won’t be the same either. Not a big deal, IMO.


    Post # 8
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    People won’t notice. Plus, you’re accessorizing it differently and are two different people. It’s no big deal. 🙂 Great minds think alike right? 

    Post # 9
    662 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m not trying to be snarky here but if my friend tried to make me order a new dress after I fell in love with and ordered a wedding dress I think that would seriously dent our friendship.  I wouldn’t want to hang out with them for a while, wouldn’t change my dress, and definitely wouldn’t share ANY more wedding details with them. 


    Dresses are like chairs at weddings.  Unless you’re the bride or you’re looking at the pictures no one really remembers what they looked like more than just a general shape.  No one will notice it’s the same dress.  Especially if you accessorize it different, which sounds like the case.


    I think its really great, actually, that you both fell in love with the same dress.  Millions of dresses out there and you both found this magnificent dress. 


    Can we see pics?

    Post # 10
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think she should have to order a new dress. You both deserve to wear the dress you each love – even if it happens to be the same one. 

    You guys will look completely different in them.  I had 2 friends wear the same dress and the only reason I noticed they were the same dress is because it was Maggie Sottero Kendra which I also tried on and loved.  They wore different colors and had different accesories, so it was tough to tell they were the same (other from the amazing Kendra train!)

    Post # 13
    2656 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Chlso823:  The weddings are pretty close together. Since hers is first, if it really bothers you then It will  have to you that goes for a different dress. You can’t ask her to change her dress, especially if she doesn’t mind. You will just have to think about what you want. Crappy situation to be in 🙁

    Post # 14
    662 posts
    Busy bee

    @Chlso823:  LOL hopefully the third bride doesn’t pick out the same dress too!!  It could be worse.  Instead of absolutely loving everything about your wedding and having similar items in theirs, they could totally sharpshoot everything and make you feel bad about your decisions.  I hate when that happens on SYTTD where the bride LOVES a dress and her friends rip it to shreds.


    You are going to look totally beautiful and totally you at your wedding.  She will look totally beautiful and totally her on her wedding day.  No one will know you’re in the same dress until you tell them in a funny story later on 🙂


    Blue is a flexible color.  Blue could be a nautical wedding, peacock feather wedding, winter wedding, etc.  I think it will turn out fine.  You also have the added benefit of when you find things you don’t think are right for your wedding but still totally love the thing you can pass it to her and see if she’ll like it for hers and vice versa!  That could be really fun!

    Post # 15
    46965 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    To be honest, I think people will notice, but I don’t think they will care.

    The most gracious people find a way to see some humour in any awkward situation.

    This will be a great story for the two of you to tell in years to come.

    Neither of you has the right to expect that the other will change their dress. You have both already committed money to the purchase.

    If you are so bothered by the duplicate dress, you are the one who should change your dress, not expect it of her.

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