Post # 1
Alright here goes!
My dad’s side: no issues, love ’em.
Mom’s side: not so much. in fact, I purposely avoid pretty much every family get together. My mom has a lot of brothers/sisters. Almost all of them are living off the system, lazy, never worked, alcoholic, etc. They look and act horribly.But I can handle most of them.
My biggest concern: my uncle. He once pretended to have cancer to get money. He is an alcoholic. He causes fights. He turns into a raging maniac drunk. I would just NOT invite him to the wedding— but he lives with my grandmother and “takes care of her” although I’m sure it’s the other way around.
I also reconnected with my brother this year after 10 years of no contact. (He was into drugs, jail etc) but he is now clean and much better. He and my uncle had a lot of issues before and should NOT be around eachother.
SO… how do I go about NOT avoiding my crazy uncle??
Post # 3
@Jw1724: Get someone else to collect your grandmother on the day of your wedding and bring her to the ceremony and reception. Personally I wouldn’t want anyone at my daughter’s wedding that I felt would cause a issue.
Post # 4
Yikes, thats tough. Do you think it will cause problems with the rest of your family? Are you worried that he will cause trouble at the wedding? My normal response to this type of situation would be that it is your wedding and if you don’t want someone there then don’t invite them but in some situations it might just be better to suck it up and do it anyway.
I don’t speak to most of my mom’s side either and I’m just not inviting them – but we don’t really have any family functions so I don’t have to worry about drama because of it…
Post # 5
I’m not worried about the after-effects of not inviting him. We don’t have many family events, and frankly… I don’t go to any of them that do exist.
My mom still wants me to invite him, and she will have a “Talk” with him about not drinking etc. But I still don’t trust this. He is out of control. I don’t know..
Post # 6
It sounds like you really don’t trust him to “behave.” I suggest not inviting him…
Post # 7
Put your brother in charge of gram. He can get her there and have the special role of being her attendent. No need to invite someone that you don’t want there.