(Closed) Major Bachelorette Party Dilemma!!

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
46414 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ashkat:  You are not a bad bridesmaid. She is a bad bride for trying to make you feel bad for circumstances beyond your control.

You have nothing to make up for.

A bottle of wine and a good book on manners?

Post # 3
9797 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Sorry, but if your attendance at these events was so important to the bride, the host or hosts should have held them at a time, place, budget and city convenient to everyone, including you. The bride was unspeakably rude and self centered to say what she did. You owe her nothing and she owes you an apology. 

Post # 4
7736 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ashkat:  What a b**** for calling you a bad bridesmaid! You are not a bad bridesmaid. She is a bridezilla for demanding girls devote an entire weekend to her bachelorette party. 

However, I don’t think you need to block out a whole day for your wedding anniversary (for me it’s often a work day anyway), so is going up on Sunday (or Saturday night) an option? 

Anyway, I don’t think you need to give a gift to appease her. I assume you’ve already given a bridal shower gift and are giving a wedding gift?

Post # 6
2337 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ashkat:  How does being a responsible working adult make you a bad bridesmaid?

I’m sorry but you have a priority and that is work and in this particular weekend, your husband too. She shouldn’t make you feel bad becuse you have to do your job and be a loving wife.

I have a couple of bridesmaids that aren’t coming to my bachelorette this weekend. Shit happens. I can’t blame them for having other things going on! that doesn’t make them bad….it makes them busy. 

If you want to give her a gift box with stuff that’s on you, but you don’t need to. 


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