(Closed) MAJOR career/life decision in the works…

posted 5 years ago in Career
  • poll: which job should I take?
    Take the one in the small town - easy financial decision and you'll be by family : (15 votes)
    79 %
    stay where you are - you'd make plenty either way and should stay in the more fun city : (4 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    652 posts
    Busy bee

    @anon224:  that’s hard. I live near a big city so I know what you mean not being able to move to a small town.

    Yet then, there’s family. Would you regret not seeing them at all? life is too short, and because of that would you rather spend the most of the time with them too? 

    Post # 4
    Member
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t let money be the deciding factor. If I were you I’d make the choice based off of family and what’s best for the future. It sound like the job offer would be better if you plan on having children in the future, better school and all, plus built in baby sisters with your family. Plus I personally am so attached I’d love to live in the same town as my family, and making more money is just a bonus! I was also in that place once where I loved everyone I worked with and hated the politics. And though I missed the people after I left it, it felt great to be away from the place that put me down at times!

    Post # 5
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I voted stay…if you’re working a lot and you’re on call that much, you want to be in a city where you can unwind and find easy sources of recreation and relaxtion which might not be as accessible in the smaller town.

    FWIW, my stepmom is 60 and is a radiologist.  She stopped working in a big, well-known medical center in downtown about ten years ago and works at a VA hospital in a smaller town.  She’s said a few times that she’s grateful she could “downsize” her career, so at least you have that option ahead of you if you stay, right?

    Congrats either way – it sounds like you have such an awesome career path going for you!

    Post # 6
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d go with the small town because my family is really important to me.  If I had the opportunity to be closer to them, I’d take it.  The extra money there certainly doesn’t hurt (and would quite possibily go even farther in the small town too due to cost of living differences) but that honestly wouldn’t even factor in that much for me.  Family would be my big draw.

    Post # 7
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    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    This is a tough one…I always make pro/con lists for tough decisions and then count up the pros/cons for each option (nerdy, I know). In your case, the job in the smaller city has more pros and more cons – but still edges out your current job overall – looking just at the pro and con lists.

    All that being said, you sound pretty anxious and conflicted about this decision – rightfully so, it’s a big one – and when that happens it becomes very hard to make a decision confidently. So, I’d suggest trying meditation or even prayer to help calm your mind enough to allow your inner voice to help guide you.  Hate to sound new agey…but honestly, with big decisions like this, that gut check is key.

    I’ve found that when I’m most conflicted it often is because I know what in my heart what I want to do, but for whatever reason my head is trying to talk my heart out of it’s choice.  Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks or appearances – make the choice that FEELS right to YOU.  Trust your gut, as they say 🙂

    Post # 8
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    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I’d go with the big city because i love cities, and there’s only so much money you can spend. 

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