(Closed) major crisis! what should i do??? i feel a mental breakdown coming on

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Can you get a temporary ring just for the wedding and buy a new “official” one after?

Post # 4
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mlford0531:  Do you have *any* sort of budget to get one? JC Penney’s has a TON of men’s rings for decent prices.

Post # 5
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mlford0531:  Calm down first off!!!!


My FI’s brother got married last year in the first weekend of May… It said ALL week that it would rain. The dya of the rehearsal dinner was a torrential downpour and absolutely freezing! The next morning was gray and chilly… Then suddenly at about noon it was beautiful blue skies and sunshine! ANYTHING can change in the weather at the drop of a hat this time of year. And even if it DOES rain… Go pick up a cute golf umbrella and make the most of it with some cute pics! I saw one that was a black and white picture of the bride and groom under an umbrella, and the bride had her whole dress bunched up to just below her knees so you could see her shoes, which were bright red in a black and white picture. Cutest thing ever.


As for the ring, it really sucks… But go buy a temporary one. It’s not the ring that matters, it’s the vows.

Post # 7
31 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mlford0531:  First of all take a deep breath, ok. In 5 days your going to be marrying the man of your dreams. Go to walmart pick up a temporary ring and at the end of the day all that matters is you will be man and wife. I know its easier said then done but u want to enjoy this time not stress. Take in every moment and enjoy it for what it is. You can get the ring when you have the money for it and if you whant to retake some ring pictures im sure you can have a friend do it. (Just remember the poses that your photographer put you in with the temp one!)

Post # 8
2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

First thing – get a checking account!  Seriously, it takes 5 minutes at the bank.  You have 5 days, go to Kohls or any department store and go through the clearance jewelry section.  Get a plain silver band that looks nice enough for pictures, and grab it.  Get the real ring later.  Take a deep breath, everything will be ok!

Post # 10
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Order a Tungsten or Titanium band.  They’re cheap in price but very good quality.  He may even like it enough that he prefers it over what you originally ordered.

Post # 13
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I totally understand wanting to get married with the ring that he will have forever, but that might just not be an option for you guys right now. And even though it’s been said a thousand times on so many different posts, it’s really not about the ring, it’s about the vows and the commitment.

So many people change their wedding bands over time. My mom has had so many different ones, it doesn’t make her any less married.

In a week you will be married and happy and everything will have worked out just fine! 🙂

Post # 14
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t understand about your Fiance having “that much extra in the bank”. Isn’t extra money good?  


Anyway, relax, get a cheap temporary ring and work things out after the wedding. It’ll be fine!

Post # 15
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Fluffmallow:  she gave him that money to use his card to pay for the ring. He spent the money on other stuff bc his card was never charged. 

Post # 16
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013


You are stressing about things that don’t matter. People buy expensive rings and have shitty marriages, or don’t. People have no rings and have shitty marriages, or don’t. What you make of your marriage is on both of you. It has nothing to do with bad ring juju unless you make it so. Borrow a ring.

At this stage in the game, money is flying out everywhere and it’s an endless follow that is tunneling through his account. He made a mistake. My husband has a terrible memory. He checks his banking account online, but he guesstimates what he’s got in there a lot too. It’s not the last mistake he will make. It’s not the last one you will make. Get seperate accounts so you know whats getting paid and what isn’t. Don’t be mad at him. It’s days before the wedding.

Things happen around weddings that can’t be predicted. And I promise there will be some things that are absolutely perfect. If you only focus on the negative, that’s all you will see. Be happy. Make an effort to enjoy this time. You will never get it back, and how you spend it feeling is up to you. I wish I hadn’t stressed that much. It all got taken care of in the end.

And I paid $99 for my husbands ring at Sam’s Club. It’s the one he liked, and it was tungsten.

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