- 5 days ago
- Wedding: October 2018
Sorry in advance if this is long!
I never thought buying one dress could cause a rollercoaster of emotions like this! I’m not sure what I’m looking for- opinions? validation? I just need some help.
I had a semi-specific look I wanted for our fall wedding: long sleeves but without being too fabric-heavy (I’m short), and preferably a more form-fitting style as our reception area is small, and our ceremony outside. I felt like a bigger/poofier dress wouldn’t mesh well with the vibe of it all.
I made sure to try on everything though, ballgowns included. I wanted the full experience! I also wanted to see what I felt and looked best in, without limiting myself despite already kind of knowing what style I wanted. The big princess dresses were definitely fun, but none wowed me and they didn’t feel like “me.”
It was hard finding a dress with sleeves that hit all my sweet spots: I wanted something romantic and elegant. A lot of the dresses felt too heavy, or the lace wasn’t right. I learned that ivory/white dresses were not my favorite: I have more of an olive complexion so they looked too stark on me.
There was one dress though, that was at the top of my “dream dress list” that I had yet to try on (dress 1 below). It looked like it had everything I wanted: amazing detail, form fitting, off-the-shoulder long sleeves.. so I went to try it on. It was beautiful! I also tried on another dress while there though, and I was surprised at how much I liked it. It was a tulle A-Line dress though, so poofier than I thought I wanted. I got confused and I was truly torn. My whole entourage loved the first one best, and I found out it came in the color “mink” with an ivory lace overlay. Even though they only had the ivory color to try, I chose the first dress in the end and took a gamble by ordering it in the mink shade. It felt logical, since all the dresses i liked (including the runner up) were not pure ivory or white.
At the time I felt very happy and confident in my decision: it took the bridal consultant putting me in a veil and bouquet in both dresses for me to realize that dress #1 was the one. I didn’t want to have to take it off and leave! But now, without a dress to try on, and given the fact I ordered a colour I haven’t seen in person, I’ve been having major anxiety over my decision..
Dress #1 (that I ordered):
Actual color I ordered it in (in a different dress style):
I think it’s the fact that I ordered it in a color I couldn’t see or try on that’s causing so much anxiety.. what if it isn’t nice? I’ve scoured the internet and I can’t find a single photo of my dress in the color I ordered it in, not even a stock photo. There are also more common/normal dress-related fears, like What if it doesn’t fit me right or what if it doesn’t look good (the sample was a size bigger)? I know that if I picked the other one, its very possible that i’d be having the same anxiety only reversed.
Am I crazy? Is my dress beautiful? I mean, I know it’s beautiful, so then I guess the question really is, am I crazy lol. When I had the dress on with a veil in store, it felt right, and I didn’t want to take it off, so logically I know I made the right decision but I can’t help but feel anxious.. Some days, I’m over the moon excited and convinced it’ll look great, and other days I am super stressed and feel like maybe I should have just gone for the ivory. Still 3 more months until it comes in.. sigh