(Closed) MAJOR dress anxiety…worth addressing or ignoring? please help!

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: what's an uncertain girl to do?
    look around - you have to feel your best! : (58 votes)
    72 %
    save your money - looks good enough as it is : (22 votes)
    27 %
    save your money - your mom will think you're nuts/vain : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    2286 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think that if you feel uncomfortable in this dress, it will continue to bother you. If you have the funds and the time, I’d say it’s perfectly fine to check out lace dresses and see if you can find the dress that you LOVE. If you do decide to keep this one, talk to your photographer and he or she will be able to help you feel more comfortable.
    It’s an absolutely beautiful dress, but if you don’t feel beautiful in it the point is moot.
    Don’t worry, this is going to work out 🙂

    Post # 4
    4023 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I do see the bump, since you pointed it out. I don’t know if I would have noticed it if not though. If you are really uncomfortable, and don’t love your dress, maybe you should look for another one that you absolutely feel right about. You could always try to sell yours. Have you looked at those really long bras? They come down to like your hips and help hold your stomach in? That might be a good solution.

    Post # 5
    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Hmmm, I can see what you’re saying. Unfortunately, there does appear to be a tummy bump, and I had the exact same problem with any dress with a satiny-sheen; although I don’t HAVE a bump, the light catches the material and gives it that impression.

    So, I agree with MissHelen that if you feel uncomfortable in it now, you will probably feel the same way about it on your wedding day. If it’s in your budget to get a second dress and you think that this will make you feel better, then by all means.

    That being said, I have seen many beautiful brides with this “bump” (due to the fabric), and it didn’t make her look any less beautiful. And, even still, I think that you look absolutely gorgeous in the dress.

    Post # 6
    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If this dress does not sing to you meaning make you feel totally happy than I would say sell it and buy a new one. You may be able to recoup some of the expenses. By the way I think the dress looks beautiful but I do see a tiny lil stomach bump but I mean tiny! But if it makes you feel uncomfortable than that’s all that matters. Do you have other pix at different angles you can post?

    Post # 7
    3761 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think most dresses of that style are going to sit like that.  Some angles and lighting it will look better in though.  Think about where your photographs will be taken (indoors, outdoors, etc).

    Have you tried on spanx or something else? 

    I personally would try to make it work since my mom would kill me if I had to back out of my dress, but if it REALLY bothers you and you can sell it and find something else in the meantime, then go for it!

    Post # 8
    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    When I was trying on dresses some made me look like I had that bump too while others didnt..my mom was so honest (it was annoying!) and would not let me even like the dress if it even hinted at a tummy…now I do have a bit of a tummy but the dress I bought smoothes it out perfectly….ANYWAY I do think you should look into some spanx satin is a very unforgiving material I do love the dress and I think you look AMAZING in it but you need to feel amazing and not regret your choice when you look at your pictures years down the road

    Post # 9
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you are against wearing spanx and it will make you paranoid leading up to the wedding and on the wedding day, I think you should continue to look at dresses. You will either find that you love your dress, or that you feel better in another dress.

    The dress is beautiful and classic, though. Another option would be to have the seamstress add another lining in the tummy area. Or maybe wear a long line bra.

    Post # 10
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If you’re not comfortable, then I suggest getting another dress. The dress is really beautiful though and I considered buying a similar dress but the owner of the store where I bought my dress talked me out it because of the exact same reason you just mentioned. I am skinny as well but somehow, the dress makes me look like I have a bump.

    At the end of the day, all you have to show for the wedding are your pictures and if you look like you have a bump, then I am not sure if you will be happy with that.

    Post # 12
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If I’m not happy with what I’m wearing, you can see it all over my face.  And you don’t want that to happen on your wedding.

    If you aren’t comfortable in your dress and you’re not happy with your dress, then find something that does make you happy. 

    Post # 13
    452 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It’s gorgeous! All you need is a decent corset! I think you look amazing in that dress!

    BUT that is what I think. you have to act on what YOU think.

    Good luck. I’m voting you keep the dress and go get some good spanx and corset!

    Post # 14
    2472 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Your dress is really pretty and I don’t think the bump is that noticable.  I would exhaust all other options to see if there is anything you can do to minimize it without going out and buying a whole new dress.  Maybe the right undergarment will help.

    Post # 16
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I love love love the back! I agree with Tulip.

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