Post # 1
Hi there! First post.
I bought a dress shortly after getting engaged and have paid for it in full aready. I thought I loved the dress, but almost immediately had doubts. I did not try on very many dresses before deciding to go with it. Over the past few months, the doubts haven’t gone away. I feel like it fits very well with the style of the wedding (will be an elegant but casual backyard wedding), but the more I think about it, the more I want to make a statement. I feel pretty in my dress, but not breathtaking. I want to feel breathtaking (I know, so narcissistic ).
Anyway, I’ve begun making appointments at other salons and trying on styles that I didn’t think I wanted at all, only to fall in love with a completely different style of dress. Ugh. So now I’m almost certain I want to buy a second dress, but I feel so awful and wasteful and guilty that I already spent the money on one. What would I even do with the first dress?! Sell it? Donate it? I can no longer picture myself walking down the aisle in it and I feel crazy!
I guess I really just want to hear similar stories from other brides who found themselves in this predicament. Help me feel better, or tell me what you did.
And some pictures just for fun…
Dress I already bought:
Style that I now love (fitted crepe…totally different!)
Dress that I’m trying on tomorrow and am currently obsessing over:
Post # 2
I love that second dress on you way more than the first one! I can totally see why you feel that way! You have an amazing figure!
Post # 3
futurerosiehanson : That second dress? That is your dress.
Post # 4
futurerosiehanson : The second dress is utterly breathtaking!!!
Post # 5
Second dress is your dress!!! Beautiful, classy and timeless. The first one is nice, too, but it may look dated in a few years, let alone in 25 years when you look back.
Post # 6
minnesotabride17 : Good point about it looking dated. Hadn’t really thought of that.
Thank you guys for the feedback! You’re just confirming what I already knew–that I bought the wrong dress ugh! I’m too impulsive, so now with the second dress I’m trying my best not to be. I love it, but have some issues with the back, so I am trying more on in a similar style to be sure this time and avoid having more dress regret!
So now what do I do with the first one? I’m sure I won’t be able to recoup nearly what I paid. Has anyone had success selling their unwanted dress?
Post # 7
Omg the second dress! I’ve already forgotten what the other dresses look like as i type this lol. Ohhh i wish i cpuld wear something like that.
Post # 8
I bought one dress and it was ok but went back and Loved the 2nd one I saw.
Post # 9
I bought my first dress shortly after I got engaged. I was 4 months post op from my ankle surgery and feeling terrible about my weight gain from broken ankle and surgery. Everyone kept saying “buy for the weight you are now.” Well, I lost the weight and toned up. The dress no longer looks great on me. Now that I’ve lost the weight, I feel more confident and wanted a dress that made a statement. I bought my second dress yesterday
Go for what makes you feel confident. The first dress looks great but you look fabulous in the second dress!
Post # 10
The 2nd one is amazing!! That is your dress!!! You look stunning in it.
Post # 11
futurerosiehanson : You are welcome. I just think, and this is MY opinion only, that all these sweetheart necklines and strapless are going to look dated and very 2009-2018, ya know? That second dress will look classic and timeless and can be worn again in thirty years, perhaps by a daughter. Think of Princess Diana’s dress – dated. Princess Grace – classic!!
I bought a second dress too – NO REGRETS at all. (PS my last name is Hanson, too!)
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! Good to hear that others have bought a second dress without regretting it. I think I’m going to have to.
horsefeathers : minnesotabride17 : What did you (will you) guys do with your first dress?
Post # 13
minnesotabride17 : Also yayyy Hansons haha.
Post # 14
The second one is amazing!
Post # 15
I think both dresses are lovely, but they definitely make different statements! If you feel better in the second dress, get the second dress. I thought I had found mine on the first trip to the boutique, but I forced myself to hold out. I’m now in love with a different one! So don’t feel bad, I think it’s pretty common.