Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2016 - Bernardus Lodge and Spa, Carmel Valley, CA
My Fiance are having a very intimate wedding of less than 30 people consisting of immediate family (and SO’s). Our venue is a very upscale resort/vineyard and most of the events will be outside. We settled on a venue in August and I immediately went out dress shopping. As a way of thanking our guests for flying all the way across the country from New England to Cali for our wedding we are paying for their rooms (almost $600/night after our discount for the block and wedding). This is making our otherwise expensive small wedding even more expensive. When it came time to talk dress budget my Fiance was firm around $1,200 which in Boston doesn’t leave me many options. I was happy to try to make that budget because although I want to look beautiful on our wedding day I just can’t fathom spending thousands on a dress that will never be worn away. (I jokingly call them garbage dresses) I started looking at bridal salons that were farther from the city hoping prices would be more reasonable and found a sample sale at a place near my parents beach house so I decided to start there. I have never been the type of girl to look at bridal magazines or fantasize about her wedding day and even though I’m an old bride (30) I’m the first of my close friends to marry so ALL of this planning has been new territory for me. Needless to say I didnt’ have a dress in mind and didn’t do enough research. I knew I wanted something pretty and floaty though and adore anything with bows so that was the direction I was leaning. I also had looked at some dresses with floral elements and tulle that I really liked so that was what we were hunting for. Well fast forward to the sample sale, it was almost 100 degrees out and the sale was in a tent. I had to try the dresses on in a communal fitting area with no AC. I probably tried almost every dress there but nothing was right. My aunt brought me the dress I wound up buying and since I got home with it I have been having doubts. It was only $200 and I was in a panic because nothing looked good on me (there is none of the fancy dress clipping in a sample sale) and this one fit pretty well with the exception of some excess length and gaping at the bust. When I saw the $200 price tag I was sold. Now I feel like it is not right for my venue or wedding and it’s just not what I wanted. I was hot and desperate when I said yes to this dress and can’t get past it. Tomorrow I have an appointment with the seamstress to see if it can be changed but am considering selling. I just feel badly because my mom and aunt were so happy when I picked it and so in love with the dress. I’m attaching pictures of myself in the dress for reference. I just feel like it is so heavy and clunky even though I love how it looks on me. It’s just not right for what I had envisioned. My wedding is May 21 so I’m getting really down to the wire on making a decision here. I either need to work with the seamstress to have it changed into something I like better or sell it and get a new one.
Post # 2
That is a gorgeous dress (actually it looks a lot like mine!) and a steal for $200. But if you aren’t feeling great about it, I’m sure you could sell it and get your $200 back easily!
Post # 3
I think that dress looks amazing on you! It has a very classic look/feel and hits you in all the right places. But I agree with PP, I’m sure you could get your $200 back easily if you’re not feeling like it’s your dress.
This being said, I wonder if your seamstress could add at tulle overskirt to your gown to give you that floaty, ethereal look you want?
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2016 - Enoch Turner Schoolhouse
I think that dress is gorgeous on you! and for $200?!! WOW!!! But I def agree with PP, you can probably sell it and get your $200 back. Alternatively, you can probably find something pre-owned at your $1200 budget?
Post # 5
I think that dress is gorgeous! But what matters is how you feel in it. You could totally get your money back I’m sure.
Finding an affordable dress in the Boston area can be hard – I highly recommend Dream Bridal in Sudbury, I got my dress there 🙂 They have some less expensive gowns, and stock a lot of beautiful, unique, flowy dresses.
Post # 6
It looks so good on you.. I’m sorry you aren’t in love with it. Maybe you could add a big bow to the back? I’m not sure what you can do about the heavy, clunky-ness, I think that’s from the material maybe? Gosh you’re in a tough spot. $200 is a steal! haha I didn’t help at all, sorry bee.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2016 - Bernardus Lodge and Spa, Carmel Valley, CA
It really is beautiful and has some elements that I really like. I should mention that while our wedding is small it is going to be very formal. The ceremony is at 6pm and my Fiance plans to get a custom tailored tux to wear. The women will be wearing long dresses. This is the setting where dinner will be with similar colors, more flowers, candles, and dramatic lighting. The type of dress I really envisioned are the ones below.
In white (but I don’t even know if that exists)
Post # 9
That dress looks great on you and I would have never guessed that it was $200.00.
That said, you need to love your dress. You should feel beautiful and amazing – yes, you wear the dress once, but how many times do you plan on getting married? You should not buy a dress becuase you are hot and it is inexpensive. I think you should continue to shop.
Post # 10
That dress is seriously GORGEOUS on you! And for $200?! You can’t beat that!
That said, all that really matters is how YOU feel in the dress. I think you could easily sell it and get your $200 back if you wanted. But I really think that dress is wonderful.
Post # 11
$200?!? That’s amazing!! It’s a beautiful dress and it looks great on you. But…if you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it. I think you could easily sell it back for that amount and find something more in keeping with your vision. Maybe find a new dress first though!
Post # 12
That dress is FABULOUS! For 200 dollars, well done!
Seriously, you can hold on to that and keep looking and you know you have a great dress no matter what.
IF I were you Id go in to Jcrew and BHLDN and see what they have, and if they dont have something that you feel suits better, at least you got to try them on and you have a fabulous fallback.
I spent 2k on my dress and while I loved it, its hanging on my wardrobe and will never be worn again. If I looked that good in a 200 dollar dress, Id take it and run with it.
Post # 13
I personally think you look beautiful in this dress. However, what matters is what you feel and if you dont feel like you like this dress then sell it and buy another one. Seamstresses however can do wonders for dresses so you may think of that as an option. Good luck girl!
Post # 14
I’d buy a tulle overlay skirt and talk to a seamstress about replacing the existing skirt with something lighter. This looks like it would be a relatively easy and less expensive than selling and buying a whole new dress. I know BHLDN and probably several pre-owned wedding sites have skirts for sale.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2016 - California
I LOVE that dress and you look gorgeous in it!! I actually feel like it fits your venue better than the floaty ones…you need to feel comfortable but if I were at your wedding I would think “how beautiful!!”