Post # 1
Hi Bees! So…I have been lurking these boards for a long time so I have seen many a posts about “dress regret” – a concept I didn’t quite understand until NOW.
This past weekend, my mom and I took a trip down to Church Street Bridal to just look at dresses and to maybe buy one if it was “the one.” Well, long story short, my mom fell in love with the dress I ended up with but for me, it didn’t feel like the dress. I don’t know why I agreed to let my mom buy it. Maybe it was the combination of the bargain at $400, the beautiful lace, the sweet sweet CSB staff, the great cause my purchase would go towards, and my mom’s excitement…I don’t know, but now I have major dress regret. It’s not the dress I envisioned I would wear on my wedding.
Our venue is a farm with a barn reception, and I just don’t feel this dress is right. I know the dress needs alterations and that maybe I’ll change my mind about it later on but I feel so conflicted.
How did you bees know when you found the right dress? I never thought I’d be one to lose sleep over a silly dress but here I am!
I don’t know what to do! 🙁 I’ve posted a listing for it in the classified section because I feel like if I can sell it, I won’t feel so guilty about not wanting to wear it. I mean, it’s just such a lovely gown but but but…
ok, phew, sorry for the vent, ladies!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY
Wow I think your dress is perfect for you and your venue! It’s absolutely beatufiul and timeless.
Post # 4
@poppypuppy: hmm, I can definitely see that dress working beautifully for a country-chic wedding…but I understand how the combination of mom+bargain+charity could be very high-pressure! Maybe take the dress to a seamstress first to get her opinion? Without knowing what specifically you don’t like about it, I’m afraid I don’t have too many suggestions…but I do think it’s a beautiful, flattering dress 🙂
Post # 6
It is a beautiful dress so I’m sure you can sell it to Get a dress you love.
I knew my dress was the one for me because it felt like it was meant for me,I got a bit teary and couldn’t stop smiling at myself.
Post # 7
Your dress looks beautiful and very barn-wedding appropriate.If I was to do alterations I’d make the neckline a more defined sweetheart and tighten up the waist to really give you some definition in that area, that may make you love it more.
But that being said, if you still don’t feel right with your dress go shopping some more, even if it’s just to take a look, at least you will know you considered a lot of options.
Personally I knew my dress was the one for me after I got dress regret the first time around and couldn’t stop thinking about the ‘other’ dress.
Post # 8
I think your dress is gorgeous and I’m wondering if alterations and maybe some fabulous accessories might help change your mind. That being said, I’m curious what kind of gown you have in mind. I think it’s worth it to continue shopping!
Post # 9
what about a plain sash? I think with the sweetheart you might have a different opinion. You don’t really say what shape you are looking for instead? Ballgown?Mermaid?
Post # 10
I love your dress!! It is perfect for the venue you described.
Post # 11
That dress is RIDICULOUSLY beautiful. Seriously, it is 100x prettier than the dresses I usually see.
Post # 12
@poppypuppy: Maybe try the dress on again with some type of undergarment…and some people might disagree – but I think you can use a sash at the waist. The spot looks bare for some reason.
Don’t buy one for $150 to $200 though – go to etsy and search ‘rhinstone applique’ – buy some ribbon and iron them together.
Post # 13
Is there something about the dress you don’t like? Or did you have a vision that it’s not fitting? Perhaps if you could put into words what it is that doesn’t feel right, we could offer some advice 🙂 It’s beautiful btw…
Post # 14
As a former victim of dress regret – GO WITH YOUR HEART. Ideally you are only going to do this once, so if this is not the dress for you, look for another. I literally cried myself to sleep every day, had nightmares, and was in a permanent bad mood after I bought my first dress. I just knew it wasn’t the one and I didn’t know what to do, I’d already put a $600 deposit down. I wound up cancelling the dress order, losing the $600, and finding a new, perfect dress in a different shop. I don’t regret my decision at all because now any time I worry about my dress, I look at a picture and fall completely back in love.
Post # 15
I love your dress- it is absolutely gorgeous, BUT I hear you on the dress regret, because I went through the exact same thing. I went to a sample sale with my mom, it was the first venue we hit shopping together. The excitement coupled with the rock bottom, unbelievable prices led us to purchase a dress that day. Coming away from it, I realized we acted a bit impulsive and I had immediate dress regret. I ended up going on my own and purchasing a second dress that I loved. It made the situation uncomfortable, but my mother soon understood and we put the original dress up on PreOwnedWeddingDresses. It took 8 MONTHS to sell, but it finally did and there was a huge sense of relief. If you know the dress is not right, don’t settle because it will be the only thing you will be able to think of. What you *could* do is, go back to CSB, GIVE them the dress and then write off the $400 as a charitable contribution come tax time, could be an easy solve.
Post # 16
@poppypuppy: Oh my….goooooooorgeous dress.