(Closed) Major Dress Regret…. Two months to go…

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 76
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Bee Keeper

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MissLibra:  Wow, after the second picture posted that dress looks totally different, it is beautiful! As for the strapless bra vs sewn in cups debate. A while back, there was another bride on the boards who had a similiar situation and I remember she opted for sewn in cups. Well in her recap, she mentioned that the sheer weight of the beaded bodice + her chest caused the boning in the dress to give a little throughout the night and it made her keep pulling her top up towards the end of the reception. Not sure how sturdy the lining is in your dress, mine was pretty airtight so I couldn’t decide but opted to wear a strapless just to give it the tiniest little bit of extra support just in case things got crazy on the dance floor. I’m glad I did because (1) things did get crazy and (2) it rained and my dress became about 20 pounds heavier with the rain and humidity– so that extra support was needed! Just something to think about if you’re still undecided 🙂

Post # 77
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Helper bee

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MissLibra:  I do think the dress you have chosen is gorgeous and when you try it on with accessories, in the right light and with proper makeup and hair that it will look great.  However it does sound to me as if you are trying to change it to the sort of look in the second dress you posted and I am wondering why you didn’t go for that one?

Post # 78
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Helper bee

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MissLibra:  scrolling down this post I am not really sure why you are getting so worried about your dress – girl your face is beautiful!!

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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MissLibra:  I’m just going to say it:

I’m a plus size bride and I have been terrified to try on dresses but looking at you in your photos has made me excited! I’m not just saying it — you’re a stunner (inside and out!) Your hair and makeup look awesome, too!

Looking at the photo from when you tried on the dress and how the dress currently looks, it seems like you just need a few alterations here and there. The sample gown looks so light and flowy and I don’t think you made the wrong choice at all! I love gowns with that shape.

After you get your alterations, I think you should do your hair and makeup like you did in the photos in this thread and THEN try own the gown again when you are really decked out from head to toe! I can see how everything will fit together and I think that when you have your makeup and hair done with the dress on, you will too! I know I feel like I look my best when I’m all showered and clean, makeup fresh on, and hair just done. I think it will change how you see yourself in the dress!

Post # 80
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Helper bee

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PenultimateWhisk: I know this comment makes me sound as awful as you clearly are. Or, maybe I just can’t stand to see someone shame another person and then coward down when they get called on it.

If “dress, hair and makeup” could instantaneously make someone beautiful, surely you would have done it yourself. You can delete your less-than-flattering photos under the guise of privacy, but we all know the real reason why you will suddenly disappear and eventually come back with a different username.

At the very least, make sure you have a more than stunning face/body/(anything!) to compensate for that very ugly personality. Especially before you trash someone else’s physical appearance.

Post # 81
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You could have the neckline altered.

Alternatively, you were promised that the correct-size dress would fit better than it actually did, so you could go down that route if you want a completely different dress. If you make enough of a stink and point out that they misguided you about the fit, you could probably get a refund–especially if you paid with a credit card. The credit card company will especially back you up if you say that you did not recieve the product you were promised.

It depends on how much you dislike the rest of the dress. I personally think it looks lovely on you but that it would benefit from some tasteful cleavage.

Also, the lighting itself in that room you were standing in for the photo you posted is very yellow.

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Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I just skimmed through the rest of the thread, I love what you did with the dress!

Post # 83
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You look lovely and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. I am sure your Fiance will adore you in that dress!

Post # 84
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You look great.  For what it’s worth, I showed my Fiance your dress and he loves it.  I’m sure your Fiance will love it too!

Post # 85
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

OP, maybe switch the dangly earrings for something smaller, like a Diamond-and-pearl stud (doesmt have to be real diamonds and pearls of course). Just a little pop at your ears. The dangling ones are pretty eye-catching and they’ll compete with your neckline and your face for the attention. Something more subtle at the ears would keep the focus on your face and the V in the neckline.

 

also… Remember… You’ve never in your life spent this much time, energy or money on any item of clothing. It’s natural to over-scruitinze every last detail. Don’t do that. *Every single bride* can find flaws in her wedding day look if she spends enough time looking for them. No one will notice the imperfections. Don’t torture yourself with them.

Post # 86
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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MissLibra:  

Sorry, this thread is mega-long so I’m not sure if this has been addressed. Re: push-up bra or cups being sewn in. I am also a DD and was told my chest was too heavy for sewn-in cups. I shopped around for months looking for a suitable strapless bra and could never find one that worked. As your bridal salon if they can order you a strapless bustier and then tailor it to your size. That’s what I did and it worked great!

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I just want to say your dress is very romantic and beautiful.  You are going to be a beautiful bride on your wedding day.

Post # 88
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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MissLibra:  I think it’s an amazing dress and it just hasn’t been altered yet. I think alterations will make all the difference in the world! I love the color and the illusion bust and I think your hair and earrings will add some extra va-va-voom!

Post # 89
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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MissLibra:  ahaha! Go girl. Tell her what’s up. 

I think your dress is beautiful, but I understand your concerns. I’m a plus size girl, too, and was very worried about my dress not flatterinf my shape, my arms, my back, etc. but after my second round of alterations, I’m more in love with my dreas than ever before!

 

i would get the neckline altered to a sweetheart. I found that alteration extremely flattering for myself. I would also consider another belt. I feel like that one kind of cuts you in two, as opposed to simply defining the waist. I’d try withor a belt or maybe a thin blingy rhinstone/blingy belt, for a bit of definition and sparkle. 

 

i think you look lovely and the dress very much enhances your figure. I think you’ll feel better after meeting with a tailor and discussing your wants. Good luck! Keep us posted!

 

also, I had the BEST luck with rago shapewear. You should check it out! Blows spanx out of the water!

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Post # 90
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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