Post # 1
So I need some help! I am having significant dress regret.
The dress I chose, (Allure couture C170) I feel like it is not sophisticated. I feel like it is a beautiful fairy tale dress, and a wow dress, but maybe not a “me” dress. I tried it on twice, and loved it both times, kinda knew when I bought it that I wasn’t 100%, but told myself it was just nerves and a big purchase. Ugh. My Maid/Matron of Honor and mom both clutched each other and gasped when I came out. We all loved it. I am so confused!
I have tried on another dress since then, one that is crazy expensive, and it was also gorgeous, but nothing I am losing sleep over. I found another one on my photgrapher’s blog that is absolutely stunning, (Ines di Santo Maclaine – have not tried on), also majorly expensive, but I could sell them both and probably get away with being less than $1000 over budget. I spoke with FI about it last night and he gave me his blessing and said that if I wanted another dress, I should get a new one. I think I am extra stressed out because If I decide I want another dress, I need to do it, like NOW. To make matters worse, Mom bought the dress, and we are on majorly shaky ground at the moment. Also, Maid/Matron of Honor thinks I am crazy and I should keep the one I have.
Everytime I think of the one I bought, I get horrible anxiety. I don’t know what to do… Meh! Help?
Post # 3
do you have pictures of you in the original dress? It might help us give you advice 🙂
Post # 4
you need to do what makes you happy – but from one dress regretful bride to another let me just tell you i felt the same way about my dress…i really loved it everytime i tried it on but after i jumped the gun and bought it i wanted something more “grown up” and “form fitting” – i unfortunately didnt have the option or time to buy another dress and honestly i ended up LOVING my dress the day of…its hard to get the full picture of how everything will turn out when you are just trying it on in front of a long mirror. (i did this numerous times in the privacy of my mothers bathroom) and everytime i tried it on i would get a little more depressed. but the day came and with my hair and makeup and veil plus my surroundings i couldnt be more happy with my dress – and honestly i would choose it again and i got tons of compliments on it. but that is my experience – i honestly think it would have been difficult for me to be 100 percent happy with any dress, there are so many beautiful dresses out there and the bee was no help! so many bee’s with beautiful dresses. but that is just my experience. do what makes you happy – but you know you bought that dress because something in you loved it. – i had to go look it up but i think its really beautiful.
just my 2 cents 🙂
Post # 5
Allure couture C170 is such a beautiful dress!
I think you shouldn’t decide getting another dress unless you actually try it on. I remember looking back on photos of other dresses (on the model) and wondering why I didn’t choose that over the dress I chose, but when I saw photos I took of it on me, I realised why I chose my dress. There is a good reason you chose the dress you did. You did try it on twice – was that on separate days?
Having said that, if you really can’t see yourself being married in the dress you bought, definitely start looking for a new one.
Sorry, not sure I really helped… But good luck with it! x
Post # 6
I would try on the other dress first before making any decisions.
I’m also pretty sure I saw a post today of someone looking for the C170…Looks like a popular dress if you decide to sell it.
Post # 8
i wouldn’t get any other dress without trying it on first, so that is a for sure. i just wish i could shake this feeling and be done with it. but i shouldn’t be feeling this way about my dress, right?
Post # 9
Your dress is lovely! But if you won’t be happy with it, go for the other one.
Post # 10
@firefly2011: Wow, is that you? You look stunning!!
I’m not sure how common it is but I think quite a few ladies (including myself) have had dress wobbles at some point. I think it’s natural, especially if you’re on weddingbee and see so many beautiful dresses.
Post # 11
Your dress is beautiful! I have these thoughts every now and then too. Did I buy it too fast? Should I have got the other one that I loved almost just as much? I think it doesn’t help looking at everyone else’s. You have to do what feels right for you. I know that’s probably not much help.
Post # 12
This is my dress too so I’m probably a little biased. I feel like if you keep looking then you’ll always manage to find something else…
Also, it’s actually the first time that I’m seeing this dress on someone else (non model) and I know I wish I had seen it on more people. My dress just arrived and I’m going to try it on tomorrow, I can take a photo and post it if you want to see it on someone else too?
Post # 13
I think your dress is amazing! But if you’re not happy, just be sure to try on other dresses before you pull the trigger.
Post # 14
Fairy tale isn’t necessarily unsophisticated though. I mean it’s not flat satin with a belt, but it’s not uber-sexy and it’s doesn’t look like it needs wings attached 🙂 The top is very glamorous, and the bottom is very couture without being ridiculous.
I think the Ines di Santo Maclaine has about the same level of glamor and couture with maybe a slightly more European feel. I like them both, but I think I prefer the one you currently have based on the fabric and the styling of the flaps on the Ines.
Is that the white or the ivory that you tried on/bought? Is the sophistication the only hesitation you’re having? Sometimes accessories and a veil can bring the picture together for you more completely? Have you bought or tried on those items with your dress already?
Post # 15
@Nasta: Please! I would love that!
Post # 16
If your concern is that it is not sophisticated, I think it is super sophisticated! I really like this dress and I like it on you too!