Post # 1
My wedding is a month-ish away and the panic has set in fo-real. 🙁 I kinda feel like this is a one-woman show, I’ve had to plan everything on my own. Aside from getting the rings and his own suit and sorting out the menu, my fiance has not contributed to the planning. According to him, all else including the decor, gifts, floral arrangements, guest book, seating arrangements are unnecessary and trivial. He doesn’t want to see any of my dresses, which makes for a convenient excuse to be even less involved. I have 6 BMs, who didn’t manage to plan my bridal shower/ party (even though I asked in June to see if we could do a get together). No one has offered to help with anything and my Maid/Matron of Honor lost all six of the wedding invitations I entrusted her to distribute to our common friends since she was going to see them a few days after. She didn’t even tell me, I had to ask her and she said “oh sorry I forgot” and then “shit babe, I can’t find the invites”. When the hens party got called off, her response was “sorry it didn’t come together”. Our family live away from where we are based for work so the text messaging delays never help with any kind of on-the-spot decision making. Anyway, I’ve resigned to the fact that I am (mostly) on my own (with virtual help from weddingbee, thank goodness).
Due to cultural reasons, I have three dresses for the entire wedding day from 9am – end of night. I am now in full dress-panic mode, i don’t know if I’ve gained or lost weight but nothing seems to fit anymore. My white dress feels too small (and just not perfect), so does my evening gown which was custom made so what the heck (!). My Chinese dress was also made from scratch but that feels too big and the tailors are these little old 80-year-old couple who’ve been making dresses since before I was conceived so who am I to question them (?!). I keep fighting taking all three dresses to get further altered because they wont get done in time I don’t think and I also don’t want to spend more than I have on these damn dresses. I am also starting to question if the dresses are actually nice, if I have made the wrong choices and if I should buy something else, everything feels off. This wedding has made me crazy. Lord help me!
Post # 2
I think all the dresses are fine without further alteration. If you stay a little strict on food the last week you’ll be fine. I don’t think the Chinese dress needs taking in necessarily but if you want it more fitted I don’t think they’ll be offended if you went back for a tweak (they’ll just assume you lost weight).
1 month is more than plenty of time for alterations, I didn’t really start alterations until a month before my wedding! They can do it overnight, it’s not that complex.
But if you don’t want to spend more money on it, don’t, there’s nothing glaringly wrong with the fit of any of the three dresses.
Post # 3
crazydoglady101 : The dresses all look like they fit you perfectly, and are all so pretty! I think you might just be having some type of panic attack, and this is what you are hyper focused on. I have these type of attacks (though I can’t tell you when I’m doing it). I’m also doing most of the planning on my own. Darling Husband (we eloped last week and are still having our big ceremony in Sept. best decision we have ever made) and I are paying for everything ourselves except for the dress which my parents are paying for, but outside of offering his opinion when I ask, he’s honestly just lost on what goes into planning any type of event. In fact, your Fiance seems to have done a lot more than mine! My parents lives over 1000 miles away, and the wedding party is spread all over the country with one in Taiwan. So I truly do understand where you are coming from.
For our elopment I got a $400 dress on clearance at a discount store for $60 seemed it fit perfect. Got home and I couldn’t move my arms. So I went with my mom when she was in town for Christmas and she picked out a dress. I also liked this in the store, but when I got home I HATED it. It was too big in the torso but the chest was too small, and it was too short. On the way to the city where we eloped we stopped at a mall to walk around and I ended up buying yet another dress. I didn’t realize it then, but I was having major anxiety and hyperfocusing on the dress. I just wonder if you are possibly doing something similar. The other dresses obviously didn’t all of a sudden not fit in less than a months time, when my weight was exactly the same.
Post # 4
ooh, I LOVE your dresses- we had friends get married in China so I sort-of understand the three dresses thing… I absolutely adore your sparkly dress 🙂 it’s so stunning! The first dress looks perfect to me but I’m not wearing it… and you’re right- the last one looks a little big on you (considering how tight they normally are!).
Fingers crossed it all gets done on time!!
As for your MOH? Wow! No words…
My FH is the same as yours and seems to think it all plans itself. Gah! I’ve had more help from his mum than him :-/
Post # 5
Girl i absoloutely love all your dresses, i understand why you would start to doubt yourself because you doing everything by yourself but am sure you will pull it off. talk to your fiance and let him know how you feel cs then he may want to help with some other stuff.
Post # 6
Your dresses all look as though they fit perfectly. Admittedly the middle one is my favourite.
Post # 7
crazydoglady101 : You look incredible in all 3 seriously! I really love the lavender sparkly/beaded one! Wow!!!! <3
Post # 8
They seem fine to me. I don’t think anything is wrong with them and that none of them fit.
I do love the second one.
Post # 9
They are all three gorgeous and you look perfect.
Post # 10
I think all three of those dresses are amazing on you! How awesome that you get to wear three dresses!
Just FYI, a good seamstress can alter a dress in a day if need be. My first dress fitting was two and half weeks before my wedding, and then I had three more fittings afterwards, the last and final dress fitting was five days before my wedding and then I took it home the next day! It can absolutely be done so don’t stress!
FWIW, my Darling Husband couldn’t care less about the planning aspect and I did it mostly all on my own so you are not alone there…my Maid/Matron of Honor was my sister and she couldn’t care less about everything and left it all to my mother and bridesmaids….Your Maid/Matron of Honor sounds annoying too but you know what? Who cares! You are marrying your man and that’s all that matters! Try to enjoy these next couple weeks because it will all go by so fast!
Post # 11
They look great. Girl, you need to breathe. This post has panic attack written all over it.
Post # 12
Aw, take a breath and try to stop overanalyzing the dress situation. I’m not sure when you took these pictures, but the first two look perfectly fitted on your body. Not tight at all! You look stunning in the second dress! The Chinese dress doesn’t look too big either. I actually like a looser fit because I have a custom made qi pao and I hate how tight the top is, the fabric doesn’t stretch. Also, tummy bulges after dinner if it’s too fitted.
I hope the responses in this thread reassure you chose the right dresses and they look fabulous on you!
Post # 13
You look amazing in all three. I absolutely love the last one, gorgeous. It doesn’t look too big, it looks effortless and classy. It’s still fit to your body, but not clinging. Try to relax, you’re going to look beautiful on the big day. Just watch your diet and stay hydrated.
Post # 14
crazydoglady101 : omg those dresses are beautiful!!! And they are definitely tailored to your body. I really think the stress is getting to you now so just woosah and stop trying on the dresses constantly, maintain your weight and you’ll perfect on your wedding day.
Post # 15
Honestly, you look perfect in all 3! Take a deep breath and relax!