Major Dress(es) Panic – whimpers help :(

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
1945 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think all the dresses are fine without further alteration. If you stay a little strict on food the last week you’ll be fine. I don’t think the Chinese dress needs taking in necessarily but if you want it more fitted I don’t think they’ll be offended if you went back for a tweak (they’ll just assume you lost weight). 

1 month is more than plenty of time for alterations, I didn’t really start alterations until a month before my wedding! They can do it overnight, it’s not that complex. 

But if you don’t want to spend more money on it, don’t, there’s nothing glaringly wrong with the fit of any of the three dresses.


Post # 3
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

crazydoglady101 :  The dresses all look like they fit you perfectly, and are all so pretty! I think you might just be having some type of panic attack, and this is what you are hyper focused on. I have these type of attacks (though I can’t tell you when I’m doing it). I’m also doing most of the planning on my own. Darling Husband (we eloped last week and are still having our big ceremony in Sept. best decision we have ever made) and I are paying for everything ourselves except for the dress which my parents are paying for, but outside of offering his opinion when I ask, he’s honestly just lost on what goes into planning any type of event. In fact, your Fiance seems to have done a lot more than mine! My parents lives over 1000 miles away, and the wedding party is spread all over the country with one in Taiwan. So I truly do understand where you are coming from.

For our elopment I got a $400 dress on clearance at a discount store for $60 seemed it fit perfect. Got home and I couldn’t move my arms. So I went with my mom when she was in town for Christmas and she picked out a dress. I also liked this in the store, but when I got home I HATED it. It was too big in the torso but the chest was too small, and it was too short. On the way to the city where we eloped we stopped at a mall to walk around and I ended up buying yet another dress. I didn’t realize it then, but I was having major anxiety and hyperfocusing on the dress. I just wonder if you are possibly doing something similar. The other dresses obviously didn’t all of a sudden not fit in less than a months time, when my weight was exactly the same. 

Post # 4
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

ooh, I LOVE your dresses- we had friends get married in China so I sort-of understand the three dresses thing… I absolutely adore your sparkly dress 🙂 it’s so stunning! The first dress looks perfect to me but I’m not wearing it… and you’re right- the last one looks a little big on you (considering how tight they normally are!).

Fingers crossed it all gets done on time!!

As for your MOH? Wow! No words…

My FH is the same as yours and seems to think it all plans itself. Gah! I’ve had more help from his mum than him :-/

Post # 5
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Girl i absoloutely love all your dresses, i understand why you would start to doubt yourself because you doing everything by yourself but am sure you will pull it off. talk to your fiance and let him know how you feel cs then he may want to help with some other stuff. 

Post # 6
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

 Your dresses all look as though they fit perfectly. Admittedly the middle one is my favourite.

Post # 7
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

crazydoglady101 :  You look incredible in all 3 seriously! I really love the lavender sparkly/beaded one! Wow!!!! <3 

Post # 8
2357 posts
Buzzing bee

They seem fine to me. I don’t think anything is wrong with them and that none of them fit.

I do love the second one. 

Post # 9
11868 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

They are all three gorgeous and you look perfect. 



Post # 10
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think all three of those dresses are amazing on you! How awesome that you get to wear three dresses! 

Just FYI, a good seamstress can alter a dress in a day if need be. My first dress fitting was two and half weeks before my wedding, and then I had three more fittings afterwards, the last and final dress fitting was five days before my wedding and then I took it home the next day! It can absolutely be done so don’t stress!

FWIW, my Darling Husband couldn’t care less about the planning aspect and I did it mostly all on my own so you are not alone there…my Maid/Matron of Honor was my sister and she couldn’t care less about everything and left it all to my mother and bridesmaids….Your Maid/Matron of Honor sounds annoying too but you know what? Who cares! You are marrying your man and that’s all that matters! Try to enjoy these next couple weeks because it will all go by so fast! 

Post # 11
5156 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

They look great. Girl, you need to breathe. This post has panic attack written all over it. 

Post # 12
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Aw, take a breath and try to stop overanalyzing the dress situation. I’m not sure when you took these pictures, but the first two look perfectly fitted on your body. Not tight at all! You look stunning in the second dress! The Chinese dress doesn’t look too big either. I actually like a looser fit because I have a custom made qi pao and I hate how tight the top is, the fabric doesn’t stretch. Also, tummy bulges after dinner if it’s too fitted. 

I hope the responses in this thread reassure you chose the right dresses and they look fabulous on you!

Post # 13
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

You look amazing in all three. I absolutely love the last one, gorgeous. It doesn’t look too big, it looks effortless and classy. It’s still fit to your body, but not clinging. Try to relax, you’re going to look beautiful on the big day. Just watch your diet and stay hydrated. 

Post # 14
1496 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

crazydoglady101 :  omg those dresses are beautiful!!! And they are definitely tailored to your body. I really think the stress is getting to you now so just woosah and stop trying on the dresses constantly, maintain your weight and you’ll perfect on your wedding day.

Post # 15
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Honestly, you look perfect in all 3!  Take a deep breath and relax!

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