Post # 1
I really only have myself to blame for this since I picked the ring… The thing is my mom has his beautiful ring that she wears as a RHR that I always liked so when my SO and I started talking about getting married I told him that would be the ring I would want. So we got engaged the weekend after thanksgiving and he gave me the ring I wanted, he had gone and asked my mom for it. So cute! I started looking for a wedding band on Etsy and found this amazing seller (Sundari Gems) who made me the most amazing platinum micro-pave eternity band, I love it so much!! A little too much since now I keep looking at the e-rings that are similar in style and I know that is what I wish I had. I can’t get this idea out of my head and I feel like I am just dreaming about an upgrade and not enjoying the ring I have now..
This is what I would like
What I have
This is my wedding band
Post # 3
I love your mom’s ring. Stop looking at other rings and driving yourself crazy. Your ring has history. I wear the wedding band my father got my mother and I love it because it was her’s. 🙂
Post # 4
Here is a picture that is a little less dark
I just don’t feel like I should be fantasizing about my upgrade after only a month, I have a really clear idea of what I want too so I scared that I have the wrong e-ring. Even showing it off to my FIs family over Christmas didn’t make me feel better. 🙁
Fiance thinks I will get over it, but I am not sure. Should I go and try on rings like the one I think I want instead?
Post # 5
Personally I think your current ring is about a 1000 times more unique and pretty than the one you want, but that’s just my opinion! What does your Fiance think of switching rings? Would he be hurt, does he have the budget, etc?
Post # 6
@DoctorandDrLady: I, personally, think it’s a lovely ring. You must’ve steered your Fiance wrong or he wouldn’t have sweetly gone to your Mom and asked for the ring. Is it possible to maybe have the ring reset into something you like more? Just a thought…
Post # 7
I’d take your beautiful, sentimental heirloom ring over a dime-a-dozen “modern” style any day. That’s just my opinion, but I love your ring and especially its history!
Post # 8
Its pretty and is different … i wouldn’t change it, if that’s what you always wanted, but of course you want something that you are happy with and if that doesn’t make you happy anymore then, just be honest with your Fiance and tell him, then maybe the two of you can go look for something together. However, i do like your ring….Congratulations!
Post # 9
@melisslp: This ring is almost 100 years old and I really like it as is, but maybe as a RHR instead. I really wouldn’t consider having it redone.
Yeah, I know the other ones aren’t as unique. That is true! Maybe I just need time for it to feel like “my ring”, since I am so used to seeing it on my mom.
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Post # 11
Personally, I like your ring so much better. AND, it has all that wonderful sentiment attached to it. And you loved it when you got it. Who’s to say you wouldn’t get a new one and then fall in love with something else a month after that? Keep your ring and stop looking at rings online!!!!! If you continue to want another ring you can always get one in the future. And either one could be a RHR.
Post # 12
I would say that since your feelings about ring styles changed so drastically in such a short amount of time, I would be inclined to wait a little longer and see if your tastes change yet again. There is always a special anniversary – plus you will have more funds as you become established in your practice.
Post # 13
@doberman: Couldn’t have said it better myself.
You need to give it a little more time. If you continue to feel this way – it is YOUR ring and you should have something you can see being on your finger forever. Our personal tastes aside, you should do what makes you happy in the long run!
Post # 14
For what it’s worth, I prefer your heirloom ring over the other ones you posted. I think it’s so lovely! But that’s just me. 🙂
Post # 15
@DoctorandDrLady: The ring you have is superior to the one you want.
Reason #1: It’s beautiful and just the right size 🙂
Reason #2: It’s unique…is it art deco?
Reason #3: It’s an heirloom…doesn’t get much better than that.
Reason #4: It’s FREE!!! Yay!!!
I agree withJenGirl obviously. Also, I think maybe you feel underwhelmed at the moment because you’ve seen it for so long. It really is gorgeous though, and you should keep it and focus on finding the wedding band. Who knows, maybe down the road you and your FH will get something different for you and you can pass it on to a daughter or niece. Don’t waste your money on another engagement ring, this one is perfect!
Post # 16
Honestly, I see rings every day on this site and it makes me very envious. You will ALWAYS find a ring that you think is pretty, or bigger, or with a nicer setting. Honestly, if you got the new ring you want, I bet you will regret it later on and miss the one you have because it has MEANING. I was jealous of all the people I see with larger rings (mine is a .25ct solitaire) and so I bugged my Fiance for a bigger cz set, just to feel fancy. I wore it for a long time and realize it just didn’t make me happy. It is not in its original box and we plan on selling it because I realized even though other people may have prettier or bigger rings than me, I wouldn’t change mine for the world. I would’ve LOVED an heirloom, just for the history behind it, but my family didn’t customarily get e-rings – just wedding bands.
I say stick with the one you have and stop torturing yourself with photos of rings you COULD’VE had. I’ve never seen any ring like yours before and that is something truly special. 🙂