- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hi guys. New to forum. Will try to keep this as short as possible. I am getting married in a few months to my boyfriend of 10 years. He is EXTREMELY close to his family and when we became engaged about 2 years ago, everyone was extatic. Months before we were to be married, his mother was diagnosed with cancer and she passed away a month later.
Throughout the ordeal, I took the reigns of it all and handled EVERYTHING. From leaving work to missing work to going to the hospital after work to take care of her. I would stay nights with her and leave in the morning to go to work. It was like that non stop.
Background story, two FSIs are married, only one has children, they are both in their early 30’s. The other two FSIs is in their mid 20’s and still live at home. 4 total. No one was “capable” of making decisions or helping with anything. Granted they did stay on nights I could not stay, but it was always me. I bought the groceries, I filled legal papers, I did everything. I even took care of the funeral arrangements.
The wedding was obviously pushed and now over a year after her death, we are finally doing it. Problem now is that for the past few months, my relationship with his sisters has been terrible. They are bridesmaids and I ended up having to pay for their dresses because they are still so “financially strained”. Which I had no problem with…
…Until, I foundout that they have been talking MAJOR bs about me. How they hate me, how they dont think our marriage will last, how they would only be in the wedding if we pay for them and how they will plaster fake smiles… they even said that if we have so much money to spend on a “party” (we are paying for everything), then we should be able to help them more around the house. The older sister broke into his room and started looking through the pictures of our cake and contracts, took pictures of them and shared it with the other sisters. It’s gotten THAT crazy bizzare.
I have never done nor have I said anything to offend them. If anything, I think they are upset at the fact that I was with their mother more than they were and that I was the one that did everything (???)
Not sure. I told my boyfriend what was going on and he is hurt over everything. I told him to talk to them and stick up for us. I havent said anything to them nor do they know that I know what they have been saying. I am saddened by the fact that he may end up feeling too heartbroken by them and not putting them in their place. He is slightly introverted and hardly wont ever speak his mind.
They are my bridesmaids and his sisters. What can I do? Should I confront them? Any ideas?
P.S. His cousin printed out emails and sent them to my house. Thats how I know what they have been saying, it’s all so childish but this is major!