Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning on cruising for our honeymoon – mostly because we want to relax and spend some quality time together without the hassle of driving or finding hotels. So we decided to go on a cruise the day after our wedding… however, we were about to book the honeymoon UNTIL my fiances’ best friend called and told him that him and his girlfriend planned a cruise a while back, and it’s leaving the day after our wedding, which is the same day, same cruise, same location as us.
What should we do? I’m terribly upset and frustrated because I wanted to have the honeymoon experience, without sharing my husband with his best friend. I just don’t want to deal with the pressure and aggrivation of trying to avoid them.
Am I being overly dramatic or should this be a time just for us?
My fiance said we’ll do whatever I want but I really know he wanted to cruise and there aren’t any other cruises leaving that day in our area; our only other option is to drive 5 hours south to a different port terminal.
Post # 3
For a honeymoon, I think you are reasonable to want to just be with your Fiance. Maybe leave a few days later anyway, to have some downtime, etc.
Post # 4
So they are going on the exact same cruise line as you? If so that really sucks and I agree that your honeymoon should be just for the two of you. Is there a cruise leaving two days after your wedding? That way you can still go on a cruise but it will be just you and your husband. I have to say from experience that the extra day to unwind after the wedding is a wonderful thing.
Post # 5
I would schedule a different cruise, to leave on a different day.
Post # 6
Could you just pick another day to leave? I know cruises usually leave on Sundays so it would be a week later, but you could use that time to relax! Many women on here say how tired they were the day after the wedding and just wanted to rest.
Post # 7
Wow, that sucks! Is it a big boat? My parents went on a cruise once and found out a few weeks later that their really good friends went on the same cruise, but it was such a big ship they never saw each other. Its possible you wouldn’t even run into them. But I completely understand you wanting to be 100% sure…
Post # 8
i would leave another day or drive the five hours to another terminal.
Post # 9
Personally, I would want to be alone on the honeymoon so I understand why you’re upset. They most likely would want to hang out with you guys while on the cruise and it might be hard to tell them no without upsetting them. Although I like my FI’s best friend and his wife, I wouldn’t want to be spending my honeymoon with them. Would you guys be ok driving the extra 5 hours to the other port? Because that would be my choice.
Post # 10
Thank you for the post. I’m glad to have other women on my side – even though my fiance is perfectly comfortable with either way we handle this situation, I appreciate the response.
I didn’t even think about down time…, maybe we will leave a few days after. I guess that wouldn’t be so bad.
But, as for leaving the same day on a different cruise line – we can’t, too far of a drive.
Post # 11
If there’s no cost to change your plans, I say go ahead and do it.
Post # 12
Cruise ships are HUGE and it’s likely you may never see them. Thousands of people on one ship.
Do they know youare going to be on the same cruise? If they are good friends, perhaps you could explain it to them that you are hoping for some alone time, and maybe make plans to just spend one afternoon or evening cocktails together?
Post # 13
I totally agree with you. There’s no way I would share my Darling Husband on our honeymoon! If you want to just totally relax and not worry about anything, but can’t find another cruise, why not look into an all inclusive resort? There’s some pretty affordable ones out there!
Post # 14
its true the ships are huge, but if you both know that you’ll be on the same boat, you will definitely run into each other. i would book another cruise on a different day. good luck!
Post # 15
oh that stinks! any other time would be so fun, but not for your Honeymoon.. def look into leaving a few days later.