- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
I’m tired of losing sleep, arguing with Fiance, maybe crying a little, and getting frustrated with this, so it’s time to ask the Bee.
I didn’t think we’d get a wedding shower. No one from either side had offered, and in fact nobody ever talks about our wedding at all. But out of the blue, two ladies who are friends of my family called my mother and told her they’d host. Fabulous, right?
These ladies have requested that we keep the guest list under 30 — a totally reasonable number, in my opinion. We’re only inviting around 100 people to the wedding itself, and a number of them are way-way-way out-of-towners (like Alaska!) so it seemed that 30 women or less would be an easy target.
But Future Mother-In-Law wants to invite Every. Single. Woman. On. The. List. Regardless of where they’re from. I call that gift-grabby and rude. She says, “invite everyone! You’ll receive more presents that way! Some of the people from further away are wealthy!”
Not only do I vehemently disagree with this, but in increasing the invite list, we’ll go way over the 30-person limit. We’d be inviting about 45-50 people, some of whom she thinks would really come to the shower, even though they’re from a few states away.
These women can not and will not host that many people. They’re hosting out of the goodness of their hearts, and they’re the ONLY people who have stepped up. I haven’t even seen them in a few years!
How do I handle this? What do I do? Tell the Future Mother-In-Law that if she can’t accomodate our numbers, she’d better find someone on her side to host a 2nd shower? Tell her this shower is just for my side? What if she already told people about it?
Sorry Bees, I’m a hot mess today. If you made it through that long and incoherent mess, many thanks.