Post # 1
5 months to go and pretty much everything but the details squared away. There are still little things I can and should be working on, but at this point in time I’m sort of “over it”. I haven’t done anything planning related for at least a month now, but I need to get back into it but can’t muster enthusiasm. I am still very excited to marry my Fiance but have been daydreaming about eloping to Vegas in a secret ceremony and making it more for the two of us than everyone else.
That’s not to say I’m not looking forward to the wedding. I think what is happening is I’m sort of tired of all my original ideas (not venue or anything major, but like decorations and “theme”, if you know what I mean).
I know I’ll come around again but has anyone else experienced this? Maybe all this is a little cliche and I still am incredibly grateful to have a nice wedding, but in a way I kind of want re-start the planning process or scrap it and have a small destination wedding.
If you’re still reading, thanks. I suppose I just needed to get it off my chest and see how to re-ignite my interest in planning.
Post # 3
We had a really long engagement, so I went through a little of this. We booked the big things (church, venue, caterer, photographer) and then I spent a lot of time looking at inspiration for all the details. Then I just got sick of it, I think it was just overload! And knowing that there was no way I could do every great thing that I saw and wanted, I just got overwhelmed. I am just now starting to get back on the ball with planning, and I’m really excited to finally be able to start all those craft projects and everything! Just take a break if you need it, if you have all the big stuff done you have time!
Post # 4
@magicmoments: Thanks! I think you’re right. I will probably just keep taking a break from planning until I actually need to get back into it.
Post # 5
@magicmoments: Just what I needed to hear! I’ve had a long engagement as well. Can’t wait to finally say I DO!
Post # 6
I have gone through this too. I am at a half burn out right now (mostly from the stupid hot glue gun buring my fingers… But I am just about done with my cupcake stand, I have everything to finish it I just dont want to do any of it… BUT I just got the last of the stuff for the flower girls and I am excited about that. Try focusing on a different area and it might help!
Post # 7
Our wedding day is exactly 2 yrs of being engaged so I have gone through ups and downs during this whole planning process. You can definitely change/add/remove little details so that might help you fall back in love with your theme? Take a little break, don’t stress about it, and then start working on things in small doses. One thing that has always helped me, is even if I planned to do something today, if I am not in the mood, I don’t because there is still plenty of time.
Post # 8
I burned out early and then realised I was going crazy, so I just said “whatever”, threw up my hands and waited.
Now, I’m 5 months out, almost everything has been decided upon, and we’re just in the process of getting it all paid off and put together.
I’m really, really glad I burnt out early, because I don’t think I could take the stress otherwise.
Post # 9
I’m thoroughly burned out. The last thing I did was a draft of the day-of schedule of events. He’s on the hook for the invitations now.
We’ve also had a rough winter–each of us lost a kitty, experienced serious illness in our families and I lived for three weeks without hot water (Get a tankless! It’ll save so much money!! yeah right!!) and are in a bit of what’s-next at the moment.
Fortunately all the saving is going well.
Post # 10
I am completely burned out from planning the wedding. I have no life right now, it’s consumed by everything wedding related. I love coming on to the bee still. Lets me escape planning my own wedding and just getting lost in other people’s questions etc.
Between appointments with vendors, parents asking for constant updates, working on DIY projects, saving money, working on the budget, yada yada yada, I just want a total break from wedding planning. Some days I just wish we went the elope route, would save so much stress, time and money 🙁
Post # 11
I’m burned out too. This is mostly becuase my M.A. thesis is due in 5 weeks (need to get on that) and I still feel a lot of pressure to work on DIY projects and deal with stuff for the wedding constantly. I am setting it aside until after this is finished, and then will get started again in mid-May. Taking breaks seems like the only way to manage everything, and not just get bored of the wedding.
Post # 12
I guess its totally normal to feel the way we do then, since so many of us are experiencing it. I agree with everyone who said take breaks, in fact a few days after I started this thread I felt a bit of an urge to get back into the planning, and I think it’s due to the fact that I stayed off this site and stopped looking at Pinterest, etc. for about a month prior to this thread.
I am still feeling like I want to elope, but not necessarily due to stress, but because it’s beginning to sound so romantic.
Post # 13
I’m in the same boat. I come on weddingbee for inspiration, and then end up lurking the emotional/family problem threads instead. I keep telling myself, “Okay, next day off, I’m definitely doing some wedding work!” And then, woosh, the day vanishes without a single thing done for the wedding.