(Closed) Major problem need advise

posted 2 months ago in Intimacy
Post # 32
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2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

bobbiebr :  you should stop going to yappy hour, tell your husband, tell your boss and if your job isn’t anything special (as in not your dream job, or some really great pay or benefits that can’t be matched elsewhere) start looking for a new job. It’s just going to get worse if you try to ignore it.

Post # 33
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1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

bobbiebr :   Let’s be clear, if it was UNWANTED it was sexual assault.  If you were too drunk to consent then its STILL sexual assault.   So I guess the question is….were you really too drunk or no?  Was this actually consentual and if so…..don’t you think you need to explore why??  I stand by my earlier statement of you being reckless.  You’re lucky that coworker didn’t try to go further with you.  The therapy suggestion was not for the drinking, it was regaring your behaving in a way you know is unhealthy to not only your physical being but to your relationship.

You’ve got decisions to make here bee because you’ve put yourself in quite the pickle.  Let me assist….Do NOT let sexual harassment go unreported….this isn’t about only you, there are other women that might be suffering either now or in the future.

If a dude puts his hands on you in an unwanted sexual manner DO NOT just sit there and take it!  Scream your head off, put his ass on blast or like my mother taught me…..knock the taste out of his mouth!  Trust me, he won’t try that shit again!

You need a sit down with your Fiance so #1 this shit gets nipped in the bud & #2 You can discuss where your relationship really is.

Post # 35
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9563 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

First of all, stop wearing such sexy shoes to work. A clog would have solved half of your problems. A croc would be even better if you can find a classic black pair.

Post # 37
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9563 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

 

 

donny :  

Post # 38
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I strongly suggest you have a discussion with the coworker (off work property) about the kiss, letting them know that was not acceptable and any further advances will not be appreciated. Keep it calm and professional, you still have to work together so letting them no there are no hard feelings is also good. 

Now the hard part…you HAVE to tell your FH about what happened. You need to be honest and let him know that you no longer plan on going to happy hours or social events where drinking is involved. This will be difficult but if you don’t tell him now and he finds out somehow later, it will go badly. There will be resentment and it will be difficult, you will have to mend the trust you broke. Drunk or not, this is on you. Do not tell him which coworker it was as this could also cause future issues if there are functions that include bringing your partner to. 

Lastly, you need to report the guy rubbing himself on your shoes. You may not have to go into detail but you can advise them that it was personal property they handled without permission. Cubical or not, they are not allowed to touch it. 

Post # 40
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9563 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

PEEP TOE???? What the hell were you thinking??? Of course he was jacking it in your shoe, JFC woman! 

 

bobbiebr :  

Post # 42
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Post # 43
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9563 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Jesus fucking Christ, woman! Keep up! Everyone knows that a peep toe is literally the best shoe on the market to masturbate into. The hole at the end provides a space for the jizz to shoot out of like a sprinkler so it keeps the penis and the pants less messy.

I’m beginning to think you enjoy having them fondle your shoes. I mean, why even leave them there in the first place??

bobbiebr :  

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