(Closed) Major problem with coworker – vent!

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would try to ignore her. If she is the only one around, and only ever acts this way when the boss is out, then complaining will actually make you look badly rather then her. What you need to do is hope one of these customers starts complaining about her.

You’ve already brought it up to your boss once, continuing to do so will only reflect poorly on you.

Post # 4
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Just let it be. If the boss doesn’t care that she’s rude to customers, why should you? Ignore her as much as possible and remember that even though you sit near each other at work, she doesn’t have to affect you if you don’t let her.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Obviously, going to your boss is not helping, so I think complaining yet again would just make you look like a whiner, unfortunately. Have you said something directly to the co-worker? 

Post # 8
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Macintosh:  I guess what I’m saying is, she’s not going to change. Accept it and deal with it. Hopefully your boss will get tired of it at some point, but you complaining isn’t going to make that happen.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s really none of your business if she comes in late. If your boss decides to overlook that then good for her! But the part about her showing you that kind of picture is not ok. That is sexual harassment and I would report that to HR.

Post # 11
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, I would leave it alone.  Customers will complain about how she acts to them and the boss will find out.  But it doesn’t make you look good to be the office police and report her for everything.

I would report the picture to HR though.  That is over the line.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Macintosh:  The only valid complaint you have left is the inappropriate pictures. Her work performance is really not your concern- especially watching the clock to see how late she is. File a complaint with HR about the picture and ask to be moved if possible…

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If she’s consistently rude to customers, one of them is going to complain at some point, and then it won’t be just your word against hers. 

As for the offensive picture, it could be considered harrasment, but considering how unhelpful your boss has been so far, do you really think complaining about it is going to accomplish anything? 

Post # 14
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Macintosh:  It’s all relative. Honestly, no, I couldn’t care less if a male coworker shows me a dirty pic and wouldn’t consider that harassment. But that’s just me. If you feel it’s inappropriate, report it. You shouldn’t have to feel that uncomfortable at work.

But I agree with others to leave the part about her being late alone, it’s not your place.

Post # 15
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know this is hard, but you need to talk directly to her. I hate any type of confrontation, too. But I once had a coworker  that was SO awful, and my principal wasn’t doing anything about it, (the orincipal knew dhe was a problem, but she just mived her from job to job around the school till ppl complained and she was moved sgain)so I sat down one night, wrote down everything that she was doing wrong, and basically went to her next the next day, sat her down, and let it all out.

I wasn’t mean at all, I just told her all the ways she could and needed to improve. Before this conversation, she was a negative and miserable person, rude to everyone that came into the library (even little kids–awful), and after she sucked it up a little and was only negative and miserable about 30% of the time.

i think everyone had been tiptoeing around her bad behavior for so long, she thought it was acceptable. And when I let her know people had been complaining (gave her specific exampkes about complsints) and that she was affecting my work and home life with her behavior, it was a wake up call. 

It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, and I dreaded it all day….but once it was cover….phew! It was such a weight off my mind.

Post # 16
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would just try to ignore her as much as possible and carry on with my work.  If your boss hasn’t cared in the past, I don’t know how much he will care if you make a big stink.  Just keep working your butt off and eventually it’ll pay off.  He may see how much she isn’t getting done while you are consistently reaching goals, etc.

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