(Closed) MAJOR problems with my sister being needy. I NEED help with this!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it sounds like she’s lonely….my advice would be to help her connect with other people. can she perhaps start a mothers group at her house or something similar? That way sage can make more friends and  it’ll help take the load off you 

Post # 4
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3720 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

She sounds so lonely! Can you help her connect with other moms or find a job or find a friend? I had a friend like this– it only stopped when she got a job and had people to talk to. 

Post # 5
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609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

@AquaGrey8962:  🙁 Sorry that you have to go through this! I know it must be really frustrating. Hmm, I think she’s being like this only because, of course, you are her sister and feels that you are the closest person in her life right now. And of course, her hubby is away most of the day, so it seems like she is trying to fill that void, that loneliness she’s feeling.

Do you both live close nearby? where you could see her in person? If you have the time, of course to see her. In my honest opinion, what I would personally do, if it were me, is I would just seriously talk to her about it all. If I could not stand it, and if it was taking a toll on my schedule etc, I would talk to her and just let her know how it’s all affecting me. You gotta let her know you feel. Maybe something along the lines of “I don’t wanna cause any hard feelings or anything like that, but with the schedule I have  it’s sometimes hard for me to talk. I really hope you understand where I’m coming from. We can talk, but there’ll be times when I can’t speak for X amount of time etc etc.” And if you know any of your sis’ friends, maybe you can mention that, like “how’s (friend name)? Do you guys still talk?” So she can connect with them. Idk something like that maybe? And you don’t even have to talk to her in person, you can tell her that on the phone.

Just my 2 cents! I really hope everything works out and that my advice helped somewhat! Good luck!

 P.S.- I have an older sister lol

Post # 9
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AquaGrey8962:  Ick!  Your sister sounds like my Father-In-Law.  That said, I have very little tolerance for this kind of crap.  It’s one thing if she’s simply lonely.  But stalking you and laying on guilt trips.  ARGHHH!  This kills me.

We just blatantly ignore the phone calls/texts from my Father-In-Law, or eventually just turn off our phones it gets to be too much.  Too many times over the last 8 years we’ve gotten cryptic text messages “Call me ASAP!  Urgent!” or “Need to talk to you immediately.”  It implies a major emergency, right?  Never once has he ever had to tell us something that couldn’t wait.  So we just don’t respond anymore.

It would be nice if you could reason with her, try to talk to her, but if she doesn’t get it/doesn’t care, you just have to IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE, no exceptions!

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