(Closed) Major Progress on the Hostage Negotiation Front…er…um…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

aww well thats good news hun! careful.. the ring board can be addictive!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I know that by October , this will no longer be an issue between us.

Sounds like now this should no longer be an issue! You have his word, he has your word – breath easy 🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I felt sooo much better once I had an exact timeline aswell!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@FlutterbyBee:We are in the EXACT same situation.  Last night Boyfriend or Best Friend asked me why it upsets me so much when I know it’ll be by October?  I said because of course I’ll always want it to be sooner!  But we have the same timeline and the same issue with building up holidays/bdays etc.  We/I want a June or August 2012 wedding and I am nervous that if he waits til October that will be difficult to plan!  But if you can do May, I can do June!  We can be waiting buddies.  🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m glad you had a good experience.  I had a major meltdown myself.

At least I’m not the only one that had a meltdown!  However, mine laughed at me and said that the man shouldn’t be pressured.  That got me even more pissed that he would have the nerve to laugh at me when I was hurt by the fact that I haven’t gotten it and won’t be getting it this upcoming weekend either!  All special days are gone except for the Jan. 22nd which is our 3rd anniversary but I doubt it will happen then either!  Men just don’t get what it does to us!  Then to top it off now he’s saying he wished we hadn’t looked at rings together, blah blah blah…I told him fine, if he doesn’t want to make me happy then take it back and find something else and stop complaining about it!  I’m still really hurt and really wish I didn’t know anything more about the ring, etc..

I’m so glad you had a good outcome.  As far as mine, we agreed not to talk about any more wedding stuff/rings until we’re actually engaged.  Hope it’s by Jan. 23rd as we’re going to a bridal show. LOL  It’s been too hard on me lately.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

we’re all waiting buddies it seems like…

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I didn’t have a post Christmas meltdown but I now feel that having passed an important holiday with no proposal, that I’m allowed to now toss out occasional funny hints from now until D-Day.  In my case, D-Day is April 18th, a week after we come back from a vacation to Atlantic City (Our FAVORITE place!). If he doesn’t propose on New Years, Valentines Day, Our Anniversary in March, or on vacation, on April 18th, I will initiate a honest, loving discussion about our goals and a timeline.  So here was my funny hint to him yesterday… I got this pic from the boards and I texted it to him giving him the impression that it was one of those funny chain texts.  He texted back “Nice” and was in a good mood when I got home so he wasn’t offended at all. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@FlutterbyBee: I am glad it at least resulted in a timeline. You know you won’t be waiting any longer than that~

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@yearns4god: Hunny I feel your pain. Although instead of laughing, mine screamed… VERY unlike him (which makes some of my friends think he’s trying to throw me off). I kept not getting any real answers from him (no I didn’t ask all the time). So I tried to have a conversation about it with him. Well he was so angry that I “brought it up again” that he screamed “I DON’T KNOW”. It was uuuggglllyyy… I had to excuse myself for a minute to cry from the shock of his reaction. I said to him the only reason I asked again was because I haven’t been getting a real answer and still felt unsure about where we stood. And that he has now made it CRYSTAL clear and I won’t need to ask again. It was so incredibly disapointing. I sure as hell won’t ever ask him again though. I never in a million years saw that reaction coming. I’ve NEVER seen him react to anything like that and we’ve been together 3 years. But he’s so confusing…I understand why I’m confused, he sure doesn’t!

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