- 7 years ago
Okay, Bees! It’s been a rough weekend. No matter how you slice and dice it, knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that a Holiday proposal is NOT coming doesn’t lessen the sting of it not happening. Hiding your disappointment isn’t always easy. Did I intend on breaking down the day after Christmas? No. I intended to stealthily slip into the bed before my Boyfriend or Best Friend and silently sob myself to sleep. But my darling wonderful Boyfriend or Best Friend decided to change into his PJs and caught me in the act. What did he do? What any self-respecting Boyfriend or Best Friend would do. Knowing I’d been in a funk all day, he put his hand on my face and said, “If you want to talk, I’ll listen without saying a word.”
And the water works started. It was uuuuuugly.
But something good did come from the agonizing up-until-2:00-am showdown. We have progress on the hostage negotiation front. (Sometimes, I feel like that’s what it is…)
I have his word that – one way or another – we will be engaged by October, 2011, at the absolute latest, with a possible May, 2012, wedding date. (I’m hoping for May 26, 2012, but he wants to re-evaluate the exact date after the engagement is official.) He wants to pick out the ring, and there will be no “us” shopping for rings. However, he wants my input on what I like. In return, he has my word that I will not let this interfere with any more holidays, family vacations, or anything else. I will ease up off his grill, let him do his thing, and go back to being the overly obnoxiously bubbly woman he fell in love with. It’s a win-win.
I feel like a *huge* weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I know that by October , this will no longer be an issue between us. (This is the ONLY thing we fight about – literally.) I feel like it’s moved from the abstract to, “Okay, this is it – we have a timeline!”
Now…time to start SERIOUSLY doing some ring research…maybe I’ll venture over to that forum…
Thanks for your support, Bees. (Even those who like to sting a little…)