(Closed) Major SIL issues – NWR (very long)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I might have missed this, but are you living with your SIL and that’s why you’re sharing a bathroom?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do you live with her?  I know it might not be financially possible, but I would definitely start saving to move out, or if you own the house, I’d find a new tenant and tell her to leave!!

In the meantime, try to remember that she is clearly just a very unhappy person who is also very rude–who in their right mind would talk crap about their own family on a facebook wall?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What I want to know is what is your husband doing about this? SIL is his sister so he should have a big talk with her and tell her slating you on facebook, being rude and aggressive is unacceptable!

It sounds like your SIL is a weird one, probably best to try and ignore her and not give her any attention…

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

The snow thing was an overreaction – stupid. 

The bathroom thing? I can see her point.  I don’t really see how that’s not unsanitary – for the baby…  Have you ever heard that statistic about how when you flush the toilet there are particles that go everywhere?!  I would just keep it in the kitchen to make peace – because she does have a point there.  And even if it’s only cluttering up one side, I would still get annoyed at having to navigate around a bunch of baby stuff that probably shouldn’t even be in the bathroom.

But the way she’s going about it all is very immature. If I were you, I’d just move the stuff, steer clear of her, don’t engage on facebook, and get the heck out of the apartment ASAP!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree that the snow thing it totally stupid–it’s not like you had your daughter out in the snow in nothing but a diaper. If it were me, I’d have as little contact as possible with her until you can move out, including blocking her from Facebook. She sounds like a drama-monger and is just fishing for things to start stuff over. Not only that–who threatens to physically harm someone in writing, in public?  I’d try to be the bigger person (I know it would be hard for me) and be polite, keep minimal contact and get out of there the first chance you get.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

She is totally overreacting about it all, and I’m sorry you have to live there and put up with it. There was NOTHING wrong with taking your daughter out in the snow. She’s a brat. I can kind of see the point about keeping bottle stuff in the bathroom, since my Darling Husband won’t even keep his toothbrush in the bathroom vanity. Maybe you can get a little caddy or something to keep all the bottle things together but so it’s not stored in the bathroom, but easy to take back and forth. I’m about to be a mom, and I get that you want to do what’s most convenient to make things easier and faster. I’m sorry and I hope your situation gets better.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

My SIL keeps a water bottle upstairs in their babies room for middle of the night feedings, along with the formula etc.  Maybe you could just bring it all down in the morning to clean, and keep the formula in your room?  

I think your SIL is being immature.  Have you had your in laws talk to her?  Have a family meeting?  When I was in college my brother and his three kids and wife moved in to our house.  That first Christmas break home sucked!!  I was pissed about sharing my bathroom with three kids (and my nephew was a teenager who could NOT hit the toilet to save his life).  Her home has been disrupted.  We had family meetings just so you could air out or say something to each other with out ripping each other’s faces off.  Good Luck but i’m sure she’s just venting her frustration.  

Post # 16
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Worker bee

Your SIL is a nut.

I would print out those threatening FB posts and keep them in a safe place.  You might need them later.  Also, when alone in the house with her, I’d keep my cell phone in my pocket.  At the first threat of violence, I’d call the police.

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