(Closed) Make my kitty love me again…

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well I guess you can start by not letting her out.  

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

Are your neighbours feeding her? If so then maybe ask them to stop.

But the bigger question is why would you want your cat to be in an environment where she doesn’t feel comfortable and safe? maybe for her sake you need to let her go and live with the neighbours (if they will have her).

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I would stop letting her out (I’m of the opinion that cats are indoor animals), and as for the rest, just give it time…plenty of time. It usually takes cats a while to warm up to each other. They have to get into a routine together and until then they’ll be awkward or even hostile around one another. She’ll probably warm up to you again faster, but in the end, you should have one big happy family.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well you are her owner. Get her inside and leave her there. The cats should all warm up to each other. And honestly it is not safe to let a cat outside ESP. while no one is home watching her.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would also start by not letting her out, especially not at.night. And maybe by giving her a part of your house that is hers, and where the other cats are not allowed to go. Let that become her territory. Give her plenty of attention while she is there. And definitely make sure the neighbors are not feeding her.

Right now she probably feels like her home has been invaded – that’s if she even considers it a home any more. You’ve got to make it the sort of place she wants to return to.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Rachel631:  A way to make them stop being manic, ect. Is to play with them a few times a day for about 20 minutes. I mean wear their socks off! lol Lots of toys to help out with that. 🙂

Again, you are their owner. So if you let them out, and are okay with it (As well as their vet) then I can’t argue with that.

Are they chipped?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Some cats just don’t get along.  You might have to think of a different solution like finding a good, safe, and loving home for one of them.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@Rachel631:  Your right it is easier said then done.  If you find a friend who likes whichever cat you give up (if you give one up) than you can still see the cat.  While it wont be your’s any more and you wont get to see it as often as you’d like you would still be able to see it.

I’m not saying you should give up right away.  Do everything that you think might work.  However if she just can’t stand him than it’s probably best that you do what’s best for them and give one to have another home. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Rachel631:  Yes, I have three cats. My first two where indoor from the get-go. My other guy was not fully indoors until I enforced it. (He was sort of a family pet, it was when I still lived with my mom years ago.) But once I kept him in, and made sure to not let him back outside after a few weeks he stopped even trying and was fine.

The last night he was outside a random dog chased him towards a road, across the road in front of a fast moving car (about 50-60MPH.) He then went into a field with nothing but THICK harsh brush. I couldn’t get into them to get him, and he wouldn’t come out.

Took me two days/nights. The third day I was only out there for about an hour (this was RIGHT beside the road, too) and finally he caved in for food. It was a good thing because it came a HUGE snow storm that night, and I honestly don’t think he would have made it. Either the storm would have been to much, another animal would have got him OR a car.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Rachel631:  Oh, and it is GREAT that you have them chipped! 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would first appologize to your neighbors that your cat has been acting like that is her home.  I would ask if your neighbors are feeding her and if so I’d ask them to stop because you really want to see if she’ll come back home.  At first I wouldn’t put their food bowls close but after it became normal for her to eat at home I would slowly inch their food bowls closer.  I suggest that you let them out together (like maybe have the flap blocked when they are all in but unblock it while they are out).   If they enjoy playing inside I would try to get them to play in the same room she’s in because her instincts might take over and she’ll jump in the game before even realizing who she’s playing with.

Her issue with the boy cat might be because your fiance kept on putting her out.  She might feel like he abonded her.  It’s also possible that she feels like you love the the boy cat more than her.  So I also suggest that you both seperately play with each of them by themselves to regain that trust.

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