Post # 1
Hi, we’re having a small wedding, with just 2 adult briesmaids(one of whom is my matron of honour) and one flowergirl. My question is: should I differentiate between the bridesmaid and my moh? and how can I go about doing it? both of their dresses/shoes are the same. Thanks
Post # 3
You can differentiate but you don’t have to.
As far as how it depends – do you want to differentiate visually or ins oem other way. Often the Maid/Matron of Honor gives a short speach during the reception. She traditionally stands next to you during the ceremony and holds your bouquet. So these duties will help differentiate her. Visually, the most common thing is a different dress, but it sounds like they’re going to be in the same dress, so I’m not sure. You could get her some really spectacular jewelry. Or they could carry different things down the aisle.
Post # 4
@smallstuff: hi! i was wondering the same thing–posting so i can follow. all my girls are picking their own dresses so they will all look slightly different which makes it even harder to make my Maid/Matron of Honor stand out, yikes. here is some adivce i have heard when all the dresses are the same: perhaps she can wear a sash or if all the girls hair is down she can wear it up or vice versa. you can also give her a bigger or different boquet than the BM’s, different jewely or head peice? good luck 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Maid/Matron of Honor will stand closest to you, so most will assume she is that way. Maybe give her different flowers?
Post # 6
@JenGirl: hi, yeah I did mean more visually. My moh will not be sitting on the top table, or making a speech.. as she will be on a different table, with her children. I do, however intend to buy her a lovely gift, as she has done so much to help me during the wedding plans 🙂
@sarahbeth_: thanks, a bigger bouquet is a good idea.. also she will have an elegant updo, with some lovely pearl pins. I could ask my other bridesmaid to have less in her hair 🙂
Post # 7
bigger bouquet. maybe a blingy sash? are you doing programs – she would be listed under Maid/Matron of Honor there. maybe more jewelry? like a necklace and bracelet when the other Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t wearing that?
I think the fact that she will be standing next to you during your ceremony, holding your bouquet and making a speech will make it pretty obvious. Even if you did a different dress, there are only 2 girls so it wouldn’t be differentiating really (unless you ahd done something super fancy for her or something).
Post # 8
My Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing the same dress as the other girls in reverse color. While that puts her in mostly black, it suits her and makes her stand out. I felt she deserved this because she has put up with me for 21 years! XD
Post # 9
I think the bride should stand out! MOHs can stand out when they’re a bride. I’d have the two match to my theme and choose age appropriate dresses for them.