(Closed) Make-up trial (Long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@marzipanda:  *HUGS*  We’re our own worst critics.  It doesn’t help that there is so much pressure on brides to look perfect, but when it comes down to what the wedding is really about, your man wants to marry you.  Not some magical make-up version of you, just you because he thinks you’re perfect the way you are.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sorry you feel that way!  You should know that you’re not the only one:

Is anyone worried about not being a “pretty bride”?

In life, there is so much pressure to look a certain way, and it seems to get even worse when weddings are involved.  But as housebee pointed out, your Fiance wants to marry YOU, the girl he knows and loves, and finds BEAUTIFUL.  And you probably ARE being too hard on yourself – we see ourselves in such a distorted way, sometimes.

I just wanted to remind you that we’re here if you ever need to chat about your concerns or if you just need encouragement 🙂

 

Post # 6
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

First of all I’m sure we have ALL had moments or days like this!!Much love xxx

Secondly; Maybe you should have a one-on-one with your makeup artist and tell her how you felt, change the look? Tell them how you want to look, I know it’s more $$ doing another trial, but it may be of some help to just run through things again maybe go back to basics? Less is more as they say, and if you’re not one to wear make up a lot, maybe just go for some sexy lashes, flawless skin, a little winged eye and some pretty pink cheeks and lips?

Oh sweetheart! I have had many occasions where i have had total meltdowns about my appearance, face and body! But they all pan out somehow!

Let us all know how you go!! Keep us all updated!! 

Post # 7
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367 posts
Helper bee

Oh, what a disappointment!

I think that maybe you’re using the wrong make-up artist… it sounds like you want to look like the best possible version of yourself (which I think is what many brides want), but you ended up looking too far from your everyday look, and didn’t feel like ‘you’. I’m not surprised you felt upset!

Have you thought about going to do some make-up trials at cosmetics counters, etc? That might help you to find the sort of look and style that is right for you. You sound like you have beautiful colouring and hair, btw!

Good luck x x

Post # 8
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sobbing on the couch over an appearance issue?  Hey, make room for me!  It gets to us all, hon. 

It’s counter-intuitive but learning more about makeup and getting all the tools I needed to recreate those “celebrity” looks really helped me feel better about myself.  You learn that the trick is, EVERYONE can look like a movie star with enough makeup.  Ergo, the majority of those stars/perfect people you see, really look just like us under all the schmear.  

So, to help you, right now:

  • Breathe and cut yourself a little slack, knowing that you’re judging how you look all the time, against how some people look in very controlled, temporary situations/photoshoots.  
  • Ask your friends what they think your best feature is and try to see how they see (this is corny, but sweet and helpful – I’ve always hated my eyes until a friend said something nice, and now that’s what I see).  
  • Talk to your makeup stylist, let her know you were a little underwhelmed and disappointed and would like another go – AND:
  • Bring some photos of celebrities/inspiration pics that you like to show your stylist.  The pics don’t have to look anything like “you,” but she’ll at least 1) be able to see your style and what looks good to you, so can tailor HER approach, and 2) if you’re being really unrealistic with yourself, she can let you know and hopefully help you find another look that suits you better.  I’m also pale, with pale hair (dishwater blonde, for goddsakes), and shorter than ALL THREE of my tall, tan and brunette bridesmaids.  I understand falling into the comparison trap.  But we’re not less, we’re just different; and difference rocks!!  So I’m sure there will be a great look for you – all of you, your complexion, your style, your dress etc – that makes you look and feel fantastic 🙂  

I’m obsessed with makeup (wanted to be a MUA) so if you want to swap inspiration pics or some things to try next time, let me know!  Chin up, girl 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@marzipanda:  poor you, just be honest to her & say you would like her to try some other looks and just the 2 of you get together, no pressure & say what you did or didnt like about it.  Look online or get some bridal magazines and mark what you want and get her to try those out.  You need to sort it out or you will just keep worrying and if she thinks you liked it that is exactly what she will do for you at the wedding.  Just say you have been thinking about it and you would like her to try out a few more things.  Was she using a concealer or primer?  What exactly didnt you like about it, do you think the make up was too much or not enough? 

Post # 14
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1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

First off… I’m a makeup artist and even in the latest carrie underwood video that I saw… i noticed she had a breakout going on on her chin and when the lighting hit it just so I could see it, but clever makeup and film/ lighting disguises it in the video.  No one ever looks perfect, and if you dont beleive me, look at Oprah without makeup and look at her very talented makeup people’s art after she has it on.  If I may add my two cents here…you can take it or leave it.  I personally think the eyebrows are filled in too much and its too dark.  It’s kind of hard to tell from the pics, but I’d suggest a taupe pencil and only to define your already existing brows because you have a really nice arch!  Also… you need some mascara sweetie!  Mascara and an eyelash curler will really open up your eyes.  Another mua trick is to add a little white liner on the water line of the lower lid to give the illusion of wider eyes too.  Also to make your eyes sparkle I would add a touch of shimmery white to just under the brow bone, and in the inner corner of the eyes.  I also am not loving that lip color on you, and I’m not sure if it just needs a little shimmer or balm, or if the color is just too heavy for you.  As far as problematic skin… we all have it…. go to Target.  Get a 5 dollar tube of Monistat chafing gel.  Apply this to your skin after you have cleansed and moisturized.  This will be your primer.  It creates a barrier between the skin and makeup, and fills in lines and glosses over those blemishes.  It creates an airbrushed look.  Another trick I might try is to not take the eyeliner pencil all the way out to the corner of the eye.  Instead stop just slightly before it.  This also creates the illusion of a brighter more sparkly eye.  I’m pale and short too…. but I love it because it makes me different.  Embrace yourself, youre a beautiful girl!

Post # 15
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1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sweetie, you are beautiful.. You just need mascara and less eyebrow pencil. And posaibly a different lip colour. It’ll make all the difference.

Post # 16
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@marzipanda:  you are beautiful!  I am not a make up artist & do not wear make up on a daily basis (only for going out at night) but have some suggestions.  I think the suggestions from @nl:  are very good.  You definitely need mascara or maybe get your eyelashes tinted as they will frame your eyes. I also think that lipstick colour is too bright (sorry if you disagree) but you have amazing shaped lips so I think a more subtle colour would look great and not that tone, it doesnt suit you.   I found this link also for make up tips for blondes with green eyes it has suggestions for colour lipsticks & might help http://lifeandluxury.hubpages.com/hub/Makeup-for-Blondes-with-Green-Eyes-and-Fair-Skin Also I would use a primer underneath, you can buy one yourself and get her to use it, it smooths the skin and provides a good foundation for your foundation :-). Here is a link to one in Australia http://www.faceofaustralia.com.au/products/face/face-base-primer.aspx Plus as you have some dark circles under your eyes (which most of us do, myself included) you could ask her to use an undereye concealer. Such as this http://www.faceofaustralia.com.au/products/face/high-definition-stick-foundation.aspx I havent used this brand myself and you may have another brand you prefer but I am sure she can come up with make up that you will love if you are able to give her more suggestions & direction about what you are not happy with.

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