Okay, so I’m not sure how much I can help, but I have achieved makeup that will NOT budge for myself, so… Here, have the benefit of whatever wisdom I might have.
For me, I have combination skin with normal cheeks and an oily T-zone. It’s also crazy sensitive, plus I am allergic or something so I’m like Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reingirl. The red nose is recent, but that doesn’t make me happier. I’m a dancer, so I can’t be having with red noses or wimpy makeup, so here’s what I do, learned mostly through trial and error.
I find I need to start with pretty dry skin. I don’t exfoliate to speak of, because my skin is precious and will be unhappy for days, but I wash my face and I moisturize it with aloe vera, which is non oily but hydrating. (My eye area is not oily, so I use a little rich eye cream- it helps everything go on smoothly. For you I would recommend something very light and non oily.) I let that sink in while I do something else, line my waterline, maybe.
Next I prime. I’ve used Spackle(I’m no good with product names, this is one of my few non drugstore brands) and a green drugstore color correcting primer, and I haven’t noticed a wear difference. Again, sinking in. Next, concealer. I have dark circles that I’m obsessed with covering and so I’ve tried every drugstore concealer around, no apparent wear differences.
Then foundation. I tend to use long wear or oil control foundations, but I’m pretty indiscriminate at times. It doesn’t seem to make a difference. In my experience, long wear foundation can be drying, and while that is not a problem for me, it might be worth it for you to try some “regular”, creamier ones- after all, they are still meant to last more than a few hours! I may put on more foundation than others, since my makeup is designed for theater. But when I look at myself or go out with friends it always looks pretty normal- I blend the poop out of it with makeup sponges. I also put foundation and regular primer both on my eyes, obviously being careful close to the lash line. Above and below.
This is the foundation for whatever else I wind up doing. I don’t do my moisturizing in the day before makeup, I feel it would be too slidy. Whether I’m doing normal daytime makeup or my “drag queen” work makeup, this is the base. I have pretty clear skin, but I like the color correction and the lasting I get from this base.
Finally, my magic bullet. Nothing lasted all day till this, since I was sweating my face off. Tammy Faye, here we come… Lol. I do all my liquid makeup and a coat of mascara. Then, a huge pouf of powder, straight to the kisser! I squinch my eyes shut and powder my face till I feel like I belong in a slapstick comedy. Sets lipstick, blush, foundation, prevents mascara fall and makes eyelashes fatter. I brush off excess powder(helps to have a fan going and a smock on), give my lashes their last coat of (waterproof) mascara, and then… Hairspray! Straight to the kisser… More squinching, god I hate getting stuff in my eyes. But! Since I started doing this, no makeup failures whatsoever. I can take a bucket of water to the face and the makeup will be strong. (Oil to remove. Never forget.) I have cried, I have slept, I have eaten in this and the lipstick hung around, the liner stayed true, the raccoon eyes didn’t show.
So, I hope that helps! I don’t think you need to spend a bundle. Try different products and ways of using them. Also, let me recommend coconut oil- that stuff is amazing. I was sure it would make me break out and make my hair stringy, but every bit of me loves it. Try it as a night cream, it might surprise you. The only other thing is, have you considered seeing a dermatologist? Redness like that can be common with rosacea, which many people don’t know they have.
Sorry for the lengthiness! I’m pulling for you, and I know you’re going to look AMAZING day of. Xoxoxox!