(Closed) Making a potluck wedding work?

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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WeddingTime18:  Another thing to think about- if I went to a wedding and saw a bride with her hair and makeup done professionally, wearing an expensive, tailored gown, with flowers, etc decorating everything and was asked to bring food, I would be fairly insulted. I’m sure this isn’t your case, but make sure that you and and your wedding decor also match the casualness of the event. Nothing is more insulting than inconveniencing your guests at their expense. Remember, YOU are hosting your wedding, and not the other way around. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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WeddingTime18:  If it’s at your family home I do think there are ways, with a lot of planning, to pull this off with the help of your closest family members and not having to recruit all the wedding guests.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Pleeeease don’t do this. Can you enlist some close family to help you prepare food in bulk the day before? Don’t ask your friends to bring food for your wedding. Food allergies, food temps, foodborne illnesses, these are all actual things. 150 is way too many people for a potluck. Deli trays, light apps and cupcakes…these are all better choices than asking your friends to cater your wedding. I would not be into bringing food to someone else’s event, especially a wedding. You are choosing to have a wedding at what I assume is a meal time, you need to provide the food.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

 

I was not able to fit in the cost of a full meal into our budget because our guest list kept on getting bigger and bigger.. so we are opting to do just a cake, punch, and champaign reception. We are doing a brunch the day of the wedding so we can feed our bridal party, and immediate family. We are also planning on doing a pretty nice rehearsal dinner for the night before and inviting both of our families. I have been looking around the internet, and I am starting to see cake and punch receptions make a comeback. That’s all it used to be back in the day, and you can make that as elegant as you want. Just be sure to not have your wedding at a meal time, and to make it clear on the invites. Our invitations are going to say “Dessert and dancing to follow” 🙂

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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WeddingTime18:  I’m sure that wouldn’t be the case. Etiquette is a tricky thing, but it usually stems from some common sense. Like trying to logistically organize who is bringing what for 150 people. Just keep this edict in mind when planning your wedding- your guests are there because you invited them. It is your responsibility to provide for and host them in a way that allows them to feel catered to and comfortable. Guests should never be inconvenienced. Without knowing what exactly your budget is, I can’t offer suggestions that would work. But I do think there is a much better way to plan this without opening pandora’s box of breeched etiquette. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

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WeddingTime18:  Just keep in mind that some people are very tunnel visioned when it comes to what is right and wrong in weddings! Instead of worrying too much of what people on here think, look at the people around you and what is acceptable. If like you so potluck dinners are the norm where your from then Im sure people wont think twice about it. To be honest I wouldnt look forward to a punch and cake reception- I HATE being hungry and would much rather take a plate/dish. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

*sigh* It bothers me sometimes how judgemental things on this board get.

Traditionally years ago, wedding dinners were potluck. It was a time for the community to get together and celebrate so everyone contributed. These days the WIC has done a great job of brainwashing people into thinking what is and isn’t appropriate…but they want their money right?!

I went to a potluck wedding last year. It was at a farm and the couple did not have much money…and it was one of the most beautiful and happy weddings I have ever been too. I happily took a dish and so did everyone else…because that’s what you do if you care for someone…you don’t judge and you understand that their circumstances may need it that way!

Post # 28
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Busy bee

 

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WeddingTime18:  Are you supplying alcohol? Your pp said there would be alcohol there. Skip that idea and get your meal catered. You can than have a cash bar. 

As a guest, I would much rather pay for a drink than have to worry about what I was bringing to eat. There are simply too many health challenges with a pot luck for that many people. Also, I know too many people with food alergies that cannot eat anything besides what they bring to a pot luck (and it might be gone by the time they are in line!)

Post # 29
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Busy bee

Sorry double post!

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